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The 9th House of Foreigners

A foreigner is anyone that is vastly different from your roots. As in either literally marrying someone over the pond, or perhaps economically or socially on the other side of the tracks.

I was thinking about my relationship with foreigners, and I realized that my 9th house has been quite active. I have Libra on my 9th house cusp using Placidus, so Venus rules it. And I have Jupiter in Libra, in my 9th house cusp. Venus is in my 8th house, conjunct Moon and Pluto.

For me, this means I fall deeply in love with foreigners (Venus on the 9th) and I would probably marry one or more (Jupiter in Libra). I would most definately teach (Jupiter) foreign friends (Venus) occult matters (Venus in the 8th). With Uranus being on the cusp of the 9th, but not in the 8th (unless using Koch, Equal or whole signs are used), I can have “love at first sight”, as well as “unusual foreign meetings and teaching” or teaching unfamiliar methods or knowledge, one-on-one.

Even when using other house systems, I still have a lot of planets that function in the 9th house and in those cases — Mercury would be on the cusp. So there’s a whole lot of analytical chatting going on with foreigners. This is another reason why I publish online, as my system knows I can reach out to more foreigners!!

So how do you connect to 9th house foreigners?


Venus Sextile Saturn — Bruce Springsteen: I’ll Work for your Love

“What others may want for free
I’ll work for your love”

I was out for a cycle this morning, and I was thinking about how many people want free things from me when what I have to offer has value. They don’t seem to stop and think about how they can give back to me. And let me tell you, I’m not one of those people who need to give “more” and watch for the return later. No. I give now, and a lot. My lot in life is to learn to say no, and turn people away. I’m quick to give, without thought of reward. So that little “give more, it will come back to you” is for the many, who do not.

Anyway, as I was thinking about who has really given to me and worked for what I can, have, and do give them — there’s few and far between. My bestie says that people have a propensity to “rape” someone kind, and helpful. He’s a triple Aries, so his language is a bit aggressive / impactful at times.

As I was cycling and thinking about all this, I heard these lyrics come on my music player. As a Venus trine Saturn, who works for the love of others, I thought to myself — I bet Bruce has Venus-Saturn harmoniously aspected. And sure enough he does. Well, he has the sextile!

Venus sextile Saturn
His Venus is in Scorpio. Saturn in Virgo.
I’ve got a lot of Virgo, and my Venus is in the house of Scorpio.
Bruce also has Venus square Pluto. I have Venus conjunct Pluto.
Now, Springsteen also has Jupiter in Capricorn so that also contributes to how important it is that he works for what he loves, and that he respects and is responsible. This Jupiter quintiles his Venus. Venus and Saturn energy is very strong in Bruce’s life. Pluto too.

So Springsteen’s lyrics are real, true, and come by honestly. He will work for the loves of his life — including music. And so do I too.

Pour me a drink Theresa in one of those glasses you dust off
And I’ll watch the bones in your back like the stations of the cross
‘Round your hair the sun lifts a halo, at your lips a crown of thorns
Whatever the deal’s going down, to this one I’m sworn

I’ll work for your love dear
I’ll work for your love
What others may want for free
I’ll work for your love

The dust of civilizations and love’s sweet remains
Slip off of your fingers and come drifting down like rain
The pages of Revelation lie open in your empty eyes of blue
I watch you slip that comb through your hair and this I promise you

I’ll work for your love dear
I’ll work for your love
What others may want for free
I’ll work for your love


Well tears they fill the rosary, at your feet my temple of bones
Here in this perdition we go on and on
Now I see your pieces crumbled and our book of faith’s been tossed
And I’m just down here searching for my own piece of the cross
In the late afternoon sun fills the room with a mist in the garden before the fall
I watch your hands smooth the front of your blouse and seven drops of blood fall

I’ll work for your love dear
I’ll work for your love
What others may want for free
I’ll work for your love
What others may want for free
I’ll work for your love
What others may want for free
I’ll work for your love


The Astrology of Menstrual Periods: Moon-Pluto

The Astrology of Menstrual Periods: Moon-Pluto, the Cole’s / Cliff’s Notes

(Current transits: Sun in Gemini (communications). Moon in Scorpio (Pluto). My current transits: Moon in the 10th. Moon-Pluto. LOL… I didn’t check this until AFTER I finished the article.)

A woman’s monthly, if Aunt Flow is still visiting, can be a difficult yet wonderful time for a woman.

The Moon and Pluto rules menstruation, and that means:

Moon (Cancer): mood changes, emotional outbursts, crying, irritation, intuition, feelings, food, instinct, female and mother energy, babies, memory, nostalgia, increase of fluids, blue, stomach

Pluto (Scorpio): blood, darkness, mystery, anger, intensity, pain, renewal, elimination, death, and life, new beginnings, sexual organs, reproductive system

Moon and Pluto can form different aspects, and so too women have different experiences with their bleeding cycle for better or worst, but always transformational.

Not everyone has Moon and Pluto aspecting; however, if it were aspecting — what would it be most closely aspecting? This can give an idea as to what type of period may be had.

The squares are frustrated, and block. The opposites vacilitate from one end to the other, in a flash — depending on what provoked. Conjunctions can be good or bad, but either way — they’re powerful. The trines are easy, peasy, lazy, and introverted. The sextiles are active, energetic, and extroverted. Read semi’s too. Semi just means half the time, when activated, or less of an effect. Quintiles are a little quirky, a little freaky — maybe even kinky. Sesquares illustrates a lack of maturity, or a disability — physical or emotional therapy may help a lot. Inconjuncts or Quincunxes are a little off-balance, and need to adjust a bit — kind of harmless, in the grande scheme.

I have Moon conjunct Pluto, in the 8th house. I have good and bad periods. When they’re good, they’re Really good — and in fact, I LIKE having my periods. I even feel a little sexier, and a little more creative too. But when they’re bad, they’re really BAD. This is when a good partner, can bank some get out of jail, for free, cards.

While Pluto deals with painful experiences, it’s brother — Mars is the cause of inflammation so Pluto causes painful inflammation. And so the antidote is Venus! Chocolate, love, good food and wine, friendship, sweetness, relaxing, art, music, and justice, etc.

I would like to speak for all women here; however, I’ll just tell you what makes me happier, healthier, and a little more in love with you:

1. Ask me what I need, to feel better.
2. Rub my back / give me massage. Internal massages are good too — we’re talking Pluto here: from the inside, out and vice versa!
3. Get me soothing drink or tea, chocolate, or food that helps reduce inflammation and pain
4. Offer some soothing chat, or an anti-inflammatory drug or herb.
3. Draw me a bath, and put on some soothing music. And since the opposite is the antidote: A hot water bottle as Pluto and Moon are COLD. :) Venus/Taurus likes things warm.
4. Don’t argue with me. I’m in pain. It’s like having a huge wood splinter stuff up your penis, or having a heavy item on your toe. It’s even more tortuous when it comes and goes (contractions, cramps).
5. Don’t antagonize me. Don’t tell me, oh you’re on “the rag”. If you think that will make me happier, um. No! LOL
6. Flowers, and sweet smells are nice too.

If you don’t have a beautiful partner, you can do these things for yourself.
The quicker this is happening, the less time you’ll / she’ll be in pain. So get to it!

By the way: Any anger or sadness a woman normally feels, or things she is pissed off or emotional about, may erupt when she’s in pain. It’s nothing new either, she just can’t deal with the pain AND concealing her annoyance or disturbance at the same time. That’s the Moon at work. And she usually doesn’t like this either! Especially if she likes to come across as a strong, and independent woman (like myself).

Further tips:
Track her cycle so you have an idea of when she’ll be in pain, and when she’s feeling more emotional. Doing this will also let you know when she’s more fertile and more into you, and when to plan for trips or doing anything more active or remote.


The Astrology of Online Dating: The Danger signs — Warning Bells and Things not so Swell

Danger, danger

Online dating can be a killer — literally, and figuratively.

These days, online dating attracts a lot of men and women with difficult love, and sex natures. Liars and cheaters, are a plenty. And there’s quite a few emotionally, physically, and mentally dis-eased that will really put you through the ringer, if you don’t take care.

Of course, none of us have perfect personalities; however, a dangerous individual is not the same as a moderately flawed one.

Even if your synastry is fabulous, the moment you stop dating (if that were to happen), watch out. Your loved one may very well revert right back to their OWN chart and the behaviours that come with it.

Draw up a chart on any prospect, and believe what you see — unless you want to test it out.

The squares are frustrated, and block. The opposites vacilitate from one end to the other, in a flash — depending on what provoked. Conjunctions can be good or bad, but either way — they’re powerful. The trines are easy, peasy, lazy, and introverted. The sextiles are active, energetic, and extroverted. Read semi’s too. Semi just means half the time, when activated, or less of an effect. Quintiles are a little quirky, a little freaky — maybe even kinky. Sesquares illustrates a lack of maturity, or a disability — physical or emotional therapy may help a lot. Inconjuncts or Quincunxes are a little off-balance, and need to adjust a bit — kind of harmless, in the grande scheme.

Every celestial object can become a romance planet or object; however, I find these are the ones that can make the most impact at the get-go:

Moon, Venus, and Mars in aspect to Jupiter, Pluto, Neptune, Uranus, and Chiron.

Warning bells

Here are some example Deal breakers, in my book. And I’ll add my little quips, as time goes on.

  1. Venus square Pluto Jealous, manipulative, subversive, under cover obsession, insecure. Giving you the love drug, that can only be got from them. Be aware, from the get-go. They’ll make their problems, yours. Giving you everything you ever wanted, at a price. You’ll be intoxicated by them, and don’t ever leave them or revenge (often silent, and can be deadly) is on its way.
  2. Venus opposite Pluto Love, hate. War of the roses. When you’re together, it’s all good but if you ever break up, you’ll experience the hate. A hate you never fathomed they could feel for you. And it will feel extreme, because it’s so out of character. Even if your synastry dissolves or balances out their Venus opp Pluto, once you’ve broken up — they go right back to THEIR chart alone. And now they’re in survival, and self-protection mode. Beware.
  3. Mars square Pluto Are you in for a beating? Verbal, physical, spiritual, emotional or otherwise? These guys and gals can be mean and cold, and make you “pay for it”. It is whatever transgression they think you did, not what you actually did, that will get you into hot water. And are you prepared to submit to an insatiable, and possibly out of norm sexual romp on rough and tumble rocks? This native is going to want to dominate you, to be sure. And not in a nice way.
  4. Mars opposite Pluto No, you can not win with this one. Be prepared to do their bidding. They don’t respect what you want. Only what THEY want. Are you prepared for psychological warfare, that you didn’t see coming? Figuratively, you’ll feel like you were given the date rape drug.
  5. Mars square Neptune They may have an STD, or other partner, major prospect, or love they’re not telling you about. They may even cheat on you sexually. But you sure will be in sexual ecstasy — the kind that goes bad, really bad after the dirty deed is done. The kind that makes you want to shower on end. They could be addicted to something that will bring you down in the end. Everything in excess: Drugs, sex, alcohol, and rock and roll. These are your wannabe rock-stars. Want to be a groupie? And at the end of the day, you might not even get into the promised land hotel room anyway.
  6. Mars opposite Neptune They could fake an orgasm, or lie to you about who else they’re dating.

Pay attention to what houses the planets are in. Is their Mars in the 5th or 7th house or the 3rd or 12th? It will tell you a lot about where and how they manifest these energies.

Lesser effect

These are things to watch out for, but may not be deal breakers.

  1. Moon square Pluto Their emotions are damaging. If it’s a guy, they have mommy / woman issues. They’re unlikely to be a feminist or pro women. They can cut you up, and toy with your emotions — making you feel unworthy, and dirty.
  2. Moon opposite Pluto This one will attempt to manipulate your emotions. At first they’ll collect your feelings, and experiences and coddle you out of the wazzoo. But if you ever do anything to “hurt them”, they’ll use what they learned against you.
  3. Venus square Jupiter They skimp out on love, and cuddles. Don’t expect a lot of, “I love you’s”. These guys and gals are single for a long time, and it’s because they block love. They detract. They’re not sweet. They have an aversion to being lovey dovey. And they can cheat on you romantically.
  4. Venus opposite Jupiter When they love you, it’s over the top. But when they’re not in love with you, but everyone else in the world — yuck, that’s hard to swallow! So keep pulling him back to his or her home turf.
  5. Venus trine Jupiter You can bet this one has a lot of admirers, with no work at all. Unless they have other good aspects, like Venus trine Saturn, watch out. You may have a cheater on your hands. Or you’ll worry too much that they will.
  6. Venus sextile Jupiter If the opportunity presents themselves to shower you with love, like your birthday, they will. They can also attract admirers, but they have to work at it. Keep them happy, and they’ll be loyal to you.
  7. Venus square Neptune They never pick the “right ones,” for them. And you’re not it either. Sorry. So you’ll have to work on making yourself VERY real from the get-go, and not letting them fall into fantasy land.
  8. Venus opposite Neptune They thought you were “the one”, but then you do something that turns them off to the reality of imperfection. It’s not you; it’s them. Remind them about how truly “magical” you are, together.
  9. Mars square Uranus These guys and gals get shockingly mad, in a flash. It’s startling. If you’re not the type to agitate, you may be okay. The flame will likely die down, as quickly as it rose. But if you’re a trouble maker yourself, avoid this one.
  10. Mars opposite Uranus
  11. Venus square Uranus They have no problems breaking up with you, in a flash. Don’t give your heart out to this one. Anyway, they usually do you a favor in that they’re not the type you can get close to very easily anyway. But you’re at your own peril, if you push it. Watch out for long distance relationships. These types look for that sort of thing, and it won’t be good for you. An LDR that happens out of the blue, may be okay, but not when they have this aspect. In synastry it can be fine such as one of you being traveling in your work, but it’s also something to pay attention to.
  12. Venus opposite Uranus The on and off again romance. Now you see me, now you don’t.

Something to think about

  1. Venus square or opposite Chiron Love does not heal them. Love hurts them, and you’re the lover that’s going to or is hurting them.
  2. Mercury square Mars They’re ornery. Not very kindly. You’re going to get a lot of negative chatter out of this one. They especially don’t get along well with men, in conversation.
  3. Mercury square Venus They especially don’t know how to get along with women, in conversation. They’re communication style is irritating, and not smooth.
  4. Moon square Venus They don’t know how to comfort you.

With Saturn it either means the thing will get off the ground, or it won’t. Not much to worry about there, at the start. But down the road, Saturn is the “glue” as they say. So if that isn’t doing well, your relationship may not last. As can be seen, finding “the one” is tricky business. Good luck, and God speed.


I’m sorry dear reader if you have any of these aspects, and I’ve painted your dating and romance life, poorly. I’ve noted the “dark” side of challenging aspects, and not how they can be overcome or be positive. It takes a very well-adjusted, self-improvement oriented person, to get beyond these aspects. And for those that don’t have these aspects, but see them in your prospect — they may have overcome the challenges, but what if they haven’t? Do you want to spend time fiddling with their issues? You know astrology, or can get an astrology reading — use it to your dating advantage. While I’m willing to work with a little spice, my Venus Virgo wants a break from these fixer uppers. I can take maybe one or two of them IF they have some good aspects like Moon-Venus-Mercury and Venus-Saturn in good aspect. Otherwise, I’m not interested as I’ve tested these aspects out enough to know their chart is right. And if you’re a native, with a difficult aspect, maybe fess up at the start of dating someone you like. Let them know what love / romance / dating challenges you face, and you might find it helps you out a lot.


If I have the time or inclination, I can tell you how to find someone compatible to you online. A little tip, for now: Sun and Venus, in good aspect, and in synastry is a good idea. So if your Sun is a Taurus, search for a Venus Virgo, Taurus, Capricorn, Scorpio, Pisces, or Cancer. How do you do that, since Sun signs are all that are shown? Each planet takes awhile to get into gear, and you take into account the preferred Sun sign of your partner too. So there are only so many Virgo Suns with Scorpio Venus in the age range you desire to date. So you check the ephemeris for the years you want to check, and find that combination or Venus. An easier way may be looking at a past loves good Venus, and using their year of birth to find the one for you online. You can change up the Sun sign with that too.



The Astrology of Hoarding: Moon Cancer 4th house, Saturn Capricorn 10th house, Venus Taurus 2nd house, Pluto Scorpio 8th house

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Hoarding is under the domains of:

Moon Cancer 4th house: Emotions. Memory. Our home.

Saturn Capricorn 10th house: Old things. Acquiring, and using. Public opinion.

Venus Taurus 2nd house: What we find beautiful. What makes us feel secure. What we value and treasure. Our own resources.

Pluto Scorpio 8th house: Elimination. Power, Control. Psychology / the Occult. Other people’s resources.

Look to these planets, signs, and houses, in your own chart to see what your own hoarding perspective. Know of someone you think hoards? Look to see if any of these planets aspect in a challenging way, such as Moon square Saturn, Venus opposite Pluto, Moon conjunct Pluto, etc…

I was thinking about hoarding… Whose to say one person’s junk, is another’s trash? What about one person’s junk, is another’s treasure?

I have a friend that saves those tv dinner, microwave plates. I mean hundreds of them! I was thinking how society would think that was a recyclable / junk / trash; however, I got to thinking: They must value this plate. Then I looked at the plate. And it was pretty sturdy, black, and looked like it could be used again and again. But my friend has enough plates, so they’re just keeping them. Stacked high. For years.

I said, “these plates over here are pretty good.”. And they said all happily, “yeah, I have a whole bunch of them, but I don’t know what they could be used for.” And I said, “I could see them being used for mixing stuff in… like paints. Maybe a children’s center could use them.” And they said, “yeah, I thought they might have some use, so I keep them. I should look into that.”

The moral of this story is: Who are we to judge someone for the things they own? Do you even know why the person keeps what they do? What’s THEIR story? Because their story, probably isn’t yours. My friend values these plates.

On the surface a lot of things are going to look senseless to us. So I say: Ignore it, or ask about it. And if the person wants to tell you their story, you’ll probably be pretty surprised. Enrich your life, through difference.

Now, the idea of clinical hoarding is that it’s affecting your life: Work, home, and personal relationships (including the one you have with yourself). If you’re not happy or you’re being stopped from doing something, and your hoarding is causing it – that’s when talk therapy is helpful. Talk therapy discovers WHY you’re doing what you’re doing, in case you don’t know. And it works at lightening up your load.

Right now, I don’t think these plates are bugging my friend. But what do I know? Nothing, really. And that makes me think of the extreme minimalists. Why do they value having nothing? I guess if society would choose between hoarding, and modesty — they’ll go for modesty so that makes minimalism more acceptable. But I think minimalism can have its own problems too.

At the end of the day, I think the majority of us just want to live and die in peace.  So I support anyone, and anything that accomplishes that goal.

Also, often if you’re paying attention to someone “hoarding”, it probably makes you uncomfortable because you’re uncomfortable with your *own* hoarding, even if no one can see you doing it. Judgements are quite often just projections, in disguise.


Poem: Death is Nothing


Death is nothing at all.
I have only slipped away to the next room.
I am I and you are you.
Whatever we were to each other,
That, we still are.

Call me by my old familiar name.
Speak to me in the easy way
which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone.
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.

Laugh as we always laughed
at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me. Pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word
that it always was.
Let it be spoken without effect.
Without the trace of a shadow on it.

Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same that it ever was.
There is absolute unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind
because I am out of sight?

I am but waiting for you.
For an interval.
Somewhere. Very near.
Just around the corner.

All is well.

Nothing is past; nothing is lost. One brief moment and all will be as it was before only better, infinitely happier and forever we will all be one together with Christ.
Henry Scott Holland


Summer horoscope for Leos: Self & Other Love, and Partnership. Beauty, and Money.

leoEspecially for #Leos. And then Aries Sagittarius Gemini Libra, and Aquarius. Yes, half the zodiac. This is how it rolls.

Dates to watch out for, for Leos: June 6 to July 18 when Venus is in Leo. This is when we will look especially attractive to others, and receive favors.

Then when it retrogrades back into Venus Leo Aug 1 to Sept 6, an old love may visit, email, or call, we may get back together with an ex, or break-up / separate with a current love. So if you met someone in June, or July but nothing clicked — when August and early September rolls around, you could get together for real. Alternatively, if you meet someone in June and July and it clicked… you may be separated or the relationship ends in August / September.

Be aware. Take your time. Get to know people, as people.

Also avoid all new cosmetic procedures, or cosmetic procedures with new providers during this time. Or you may find yourself wanting to change it or it not working out the way you envisioned. So no new haircuts, hair colors, etc… But going to an old color, may work out well (for example).

For love and recreation… When slower moving planets, objects, and points enter your 5th (house of romance and fun) and 7th (house of commitment, marriage, etc.) — especially Venus and Vertex — those dates are more important.

Important Dates

1st house June 6 to July 18, 2015 First contactPN: June 7th, 2015 JD
July 1, 2015 (Canada Day) Venus-Jupiter conjunction on a Full Moon in Sagittarius. PN: July 1, 2015 Venus conjunct Jupiter conjunct Vertex. Did NOT go out! Totally missed the boat on that one. But did receive good “financial” news the day before!
1st house Aug 1 to Sept 6, 2015 RETROGRADEIt’s in or out! Love in, or love out. Money in, money out. Beauty in, beauty out. Art in, art out. Redefining all things Venusian.
5th house Dec 31 to January 23, 2016 In joyous celebration
7th house Feb 18 to March 12, 2016 Getting serious
10th house May 1 to 24th, 2016 Going public, in some grand wayPN: Friday, 6 May 2016

Aries and Sagittarius can get some mojo happening during this period, and Aquarius, Gemini, and Libra can find some sweetness.

Reminder: Venus, along with Love, also relates to the arts, beauty, friendship, and money. So there are so many ways these summer horoscope transits can manifest. Be open to all, my fellow Leos.

May we all find our long time love (for self, and or other) this summer. For those that already have it… apply this sentiment to some other Venusian activity.

ps. This was just a random, and casual post I made. There’s SO MUCH more to say, but no time to say it… I could go on all day about the stars.


Projection: Aries-Libra Axis


Aries (self) meets Libra (mirror)

When I say it’s them, it’s ME.
When the other says it’s me, it’s THEM.
You’re feeling x. No. I’m feeling x.
You’re x. No. I’m x.
Be honest.

I work with a lot of Aries (1st house) – Libra (7th house) themes. The 7th house, is the house of projection: A hall of mirrors. And the first house, is the house of me, myself, and I. We live in a world of opposites. Most things are contrary to what we believe, unless we learn (educate ourselves) otherwise.

Take the test.
The next time you’re making a judgement about someone else, could it be about you, for better or worst?

We can only see our face, through a mirror.

Now, it’s not to say they’re not X at all. They probably are, and maybe even more X than you BUT, yes But… you’re still X, maybe different, maybe a lot less, and in your own way but you’re still X. So the excercise is to have compassion, and understanding for yourself and then offer that gift to another.

Who are you?
Who are they?
You be you. And let them, be they.


Lessons From the Trench: Aries-Libra, Win-win

Lessons in the trench.

Aries-Libra Issues

Tell people what you need or want, without judgement, criticism, or sarcasm.


Please put the dish there.


“I hate when you put the dish there, — you don’t think that it’s getting in the way of MY space.. But why would you, you’re the only one that matters.”

All that talk not only will probably get the other person down or want to kick you out of their life, but you won’t feel good either, having made up stories about someone else’s motivations. And being unfriendly and hostile, hurts you too.

So next time you tell someone what you want or need, try cutting the fat.

* If that doesn’t work, or you need to share your displeasure, WIN it…

WIN it.

When x happens, I feel x, and I need x.


When the dish is put here, I feel frustrated and ignored. I need you to put the dish here.

Babble be gone.


Aphorisms of Abella Arthur

We can not see ourselves so we were provided people, as mirrors, to reflect our appearance. All tools are given to us to better ourselves, and our circumstances. It’s up to us to face the truth of how we appear to others. What we see in others is a reflection of ourselves for better or worse. Own that reflection: Joy in its goodness, and transmute its lack of kindness – with self and other. Seeing yourself through the false, man made mirror of self – stunts growth, and reality. Go forth with strength and fortitude. Embrace truth on your own terms, through others.

Others do not define you. YOU define you. THEIR judgements, observations, opinions, and assumptions belong to them, not you. And what they say about you, is quite often a projection of how the person feels about themselves, and their stuff. They may not want to own it, but it’s not yours to own. Turn it around, ask them: Is that how you feel / going on in YOUR life? How you feel about me (if someone tells you how you feel about them)? Or… How you feel about yourself? This is especially important if what they’re saying is a big off-the-wall thing they’ve said, and is coming out of “left field”. And you may even see them do a double-take as they reflect on how very much their comment is NOT about you. Yet, if you feel that what others say has some validity, and interest to you — I implore you to explore it. Do not deny it. Just remember that you have the last say in how you see yourself, for better or worse. You are only responsible for YOUR feelings and thoughts. By the way, we ALL project (yes, me too LOL). It’s how we’re built. But if you know the law of opposites, you’ll be able to put things in better perspective and lead a more enjoyable life — free from the hell of other people. So the next time you get a head-scratcher, turn the comments backwards, upside down, to the other side and THEN see if it makes sense. Most of the time it does, and as I said it has *nothing* much to do with you at all. But IF it does, fess up butter cup.

Other people come before you.
Don’t hurt other people.

Stay quiet; listen. You’ll be amazed at what is learned. Share; be wonderful. You’ll be amazed at what others didn’t know.

Learn what makes people happy, and ego aside – DO it… as long as it’s within your own value structure. Get creative, if at first it doesn’t appear that it is.

Know what your bare essentials for living are. Know what you’re bare keepsakes are. Don’t worry about the rest. Electronically record your most valuable possessions such as music, books, photographs, people, etc. For these things can be replace, eventually. If they can’t, enjoy the recorded memory.

Keep your most important documents, at hand. Electronically scan and protect them.

Listen to, and/or ask for someone’s story at least once a day. You’ll be surprised.

False fear is an opportunity to take the bull by the horns, and have an adventure.

It’s pretty much always better than imagined. You’re resilient. Stop imagining, and just go do it.

Take, time, out.

Have faith. It will ALL work out as intended, no matter how miserable and nasty it may first appear. Don’t take heart.

Money is needed to live on this rock, but money isn’t everything. When you’re on your death bed, ready to grasp the spiritual side of life — you’ll know it’s the souls (locked up in bodies) you should have spent more time investing in. Don’t wait.

© Abella Arthur


Movies: Numbers and OXV: The Manual aka Frequencies

o- Not defined

x – 10

v –  5

= 15 = 6 = Man

666 is the Devil, Saturn, Satan, the overseer and Warden of Earth and it’s People — MAN.

15 is the Temperance card. Fire and Water. Ruled by Sagittarius. It’s the alchemist.

0 is the Fool. The cosmic egg. Neither here nor there. Not defined. We don’t know yet.



Language: The Divine of the Higher Mind vs 3rd House Frivilous Speech

Thinking about language again…

Advocates of this school of thought point out that words are cheap. As digital hallucinations, they are intrinsically unreliable. Should an especially clever ape, or even a group of articulate apes, try to use words in the wild, they would carry no conviction. The primate vocalizations that do carry conviction — those they actually use — are unlike words, in that they are emotionally expressive, intrinsically meaningful and reliable because they are relatively costly and hard to fake. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Origin_of_language#Ritual.2Fspeech_coevolution

After watching Frequencies / OXV: The Manual (a philosophy / outlook I believe in and talk a lot about in small dosages… it’s along the thinking style shared in my article: The Prison Planet), I thought about what makes one person’s speech resonate on a higher level than anothers.

I think different words, have a different vibrations and therefore a different impact and response to them, once heard or read. I also believe that words are magical, and are supposed to be used for magic making (incantations / spells); however, eventually language got into the hands of the world’s people but they had to be taught to not make much use of it. This is why a lot of people don’t have much to say, nothing original, meaningful, etc…Most of us have been dumbed down (Tower of Babylon) to avoid provoking a meaningful spell on the world’s people. We’re in language lock-down.

I thought of writing out the same idea with different words. I mean, there can be 100+ words that mean the same thing but have a different impact. So which of the following sentences (that essentially mean the same thing) have a higher or lower frequency? And I use the word frequency within the context of physics or astronomy — how you “feel”, and after hearing or reading something.

Which sentence leaves a lasting impression, or quickest and most forceful impact of meaning? This illustrates higher and lower frequency in speech, and therefore in how you interact with another human being.

I fancy wellness.
I like happiness.
I enjoy eudaemonia.
I appreciate comfort.
I espouse strength.

What we say, and how we string our words together — matters. Not so much the words in and of themselves but the sound vibration and level of frequency. And this is why self-talk, and CBT (Cognitive Behavior Therapy) affects us greatly. When we speak, it matters.

While I use English words, consider the sounds of other languages. French is known as the romantic language, and I find Egyptian Arabic to have a soothing sound to it, when spoken by women. What I’m saying here is that the sound or look of the word can mean more than the words.


Happy Satan or Saturnalia aka Merry Christmas

1280px-Escultura_Saturnalia_de_Ernesto_BiondiChristmas is derived from Saturnalia, a pagan holiday where Saturn gives gifts to his prisoners.

A lot of people pass away during December and January. From an astrological perspective, December is the month of Sagittarius (Jupiter) and Capricorn (Saturn). It’s my belief that Saturn (Satan, the Devil, Santa) is the overseer of planet Earth. Jupiter is a lucky, giving planet. Together, they are the Cornucopia of delight. Christmas is a pagan, Saturnalia holiday — a week long holiday of lawlessness and of course, we know Saturn is about social law! We are honoring Saturn, the warden of this planet, during this time. And as humans, we “play out” this myth with one another by giving gifts and forgiving sins, etc. It’s called Astrodrama. That is what Saturn is doing with us now: Giving us gifts, and forgiving our sins.

Man’s number is six, because the devil’s number is 666. I believe death is a “release” or relief from this prison planet but we’re programmed to survive to live out our sentence.

Death is a gift, from Saturn and Jupiter. It’s the one’s that are left behind to suffer the horror of such a great loss in their lives. Yeah, this is a horror show for anyone paying attention. *dry Capricornian chuckle* But I take peace in knowing that my dear loved ones, gone to heaven (space that has no time or physical boundaries) are happy, spiritually alive, and well. And we’ll reunite again.

Someone very important to me passed (was released) on December 24th. His suffering is over. Mine/Ours continues. But what an amazing day to go. To me, it shows how pure his spirit truly was and how gifted he is. I remember him everyday, but I’m glad to be able to honor him during this time. ~ Abella Arthur, Astrologer

For more on this Prison Planet.

Saturn's Helper

Saturn’s Helper


Venus: Relationships (Libra-Aries) & Love (Taurus-Scorpio)

Note: I’m heterosexual, and this article is written with a personal blog perspective. While my writing could be applied to all forms of relating, this is what I know best and I tend to enjoy writing from experience.

Ask yourself these two questions:

  1. Do you want the relationship you’re currently in, or to be in one?
  2. Do you want to love the person you’re with, or be in love?

What are you (Aries) doing about it, to create and loving and vibrant relationship (Libra) for you and your person of interest?

The first question I’ve asked — asks for a commitment (Libra), and dedication (Taurus). The second question asks for vulnerability (Aries), and passion (Scorpio). Yes, a healthy Aries is vulnerable because they’re strong.

If you’ve noticed, I haven’t asked about having sex (Mars).

Frankly, I strongly believe (and astrology indicates this) if you don’t have #1 and #2 (Venus) first, then having #3 (Mars) is often a sure disaster. And while some people believe it takes a long time to love someone, I don’t agree. But I do think it can take a long time to see if someone is compatible, but that’s the logic side of Libra — not love (Taurus).

To be personal, I had sex fairly quickly (within two weeks) with my ex husband but we then became joined at the hip and we were together for 10 years. But the most important thing I discovered was that #1 — he wanted to be in a relationship AND #2 — he loved me rather quickly (love at first sight), so it made sense to have #3.

These days it seems like a lot of guys want to skip #1 and #2 for themselves, and go straight to #3 (Mars) BUT expect YOU to do #1 and #2 (Venus) all on your own. Waaaaa?? LOL Yeah buddy, it doesn’t work that way. Good try though. LOL

They don’t want to commit because it’s like a dating buffet out here on the internet and they’re abusing the nonsensical friends with benefits (fwb) arrangement aka FREE SEX. And they don’t want to be vulnerable, unless or in place of you being vulnerable because… eh, I haven’t figured that one out yet. Anyone know??

But the full package is Venus and Mars. That’s Venus combined with Mars. Venus without Mars, and Mars without Venus is not a full romantic relationship — it’s sex or it’s friendship but it’s not both.

“Careful consideration of your options and goals will lead to wiser choices at the times of activity, and a gradual transformation from self-preoccupation to becoming more aware of the rights and feelings of others will be a great step for you to make.” Source: Astromatrix

Not even the proverbial fwb person is really a friend. Why? Because at it’s core, this arrangement lacks respect. And your true friend will respect you, and vice versa. So if you’re respecting (2nd house – Taurus) yourself, your friend, and vice versa — you’re not having an fwb situation. Fwb is a misnomer. Yes, Venus is related to friendship and Mars is related to sex BUT if the man REALLY likes you (the logic part of Libra) — he’ll want more than just sex with you. He’ll want you all to himself (Aries). And he’ll focus on  Love (Taurus), and commitment(Libra). Fwb lacks love. Fwb is missing something. Fwb is seriously flawed, and like an aberration. Fwb is more of an Aquarius, 11th house, Uranian thing. An acquaintance. Fwb is a Mars-Uranus arrangement, that leaves the female (Venus) out of the picture. Her Venusian wants, and desires are left out of the equation. Uranian energy is discordant, and the fwb arrangement is inconjunct to Venus (Taurus) even though it appeals to a side of Venus (Libra trines Aquarius).

Anyway, fwb is like a whole other article or BOOK. Is there a book out there yet on this subject? Could be… lol


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For free, I’ll answer either a yes or no question or a question about the best date to do something. I do not offer help with health or stocks, at this time. And I reserve the right not to answer a question, and ask you to select a new one that is more in line with my practice and ability.

Horary question. Horary is similar to tarot, and acts as an oracle of sorts. As a student of horary, I do not yet feel comfortable in using this astrological oracle for a fee; however, I am happy to answer one yes or no question for free. Your mileage may vary! Having said that, I have studied horary for over 400 hours, 200 charts, and 2 months. So I do know a thing or two about this highly principled method.

Electional question: This astrological field of study is related to when it’s the best time to do something. Ideally it’s good if you have an idea of a number of time periods when you would like to accomplish something successfully and then I’ll let you know if that’s a good time and what’s going on, in the cosmos, at that time.


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FREE Horary Questions from a STUDENT of Horary

Horary answers your question. Horary loves answering a yes or no question. However, horary can offer an explanation and detail around your question. Horary can also provide advice. Horary is very rule based. You and I must follow its rules, for an accurate judgement (answer) to occur. And coolest thing ever – it doesn’t require a human being’s birth details!! The birth details are that of the question!

Horary is similar to getting a tarot reading; however, it is a) finite, b) takes more time and effort to answer one question, but then you get a lot more out of it too, and c) the judgement is final – you can only ask your question once – no fooling this oracle!

You’ve really got to be brave and bold to receive a horary answer, because the results are often in-your-face brutal! No Neptunian (tarot) wishy washy, sugar coating (by the way, I love tarot — I wrote a book on it). This is SATURN’s domain! Harsh. Inflexible. Testing. Taunting. Taming. Teaching.

Horary results, as what I find with astrology (in general), are destiny based. So while you might have a small amount of free will — I believe that freewill is finite. If astrology wasn’t destiny based, I think the whole concept of it — would collapse.

As a side note: I took up horary when Urania made a partile conjunction to my natal Urania. Or was that the time she presented me with the situation that would plummet me into horary (I’ll check again later)? The last time she did that, I delved very deeply into natal and synastry astrology. After lamenting over a failed and distressing life event — Tweeter, LouiseOfArabia suggested that I do a horary reading; thank you. But I knew NOTHING about how to read with horary, and frankly it seemed like a daunting and timely endeavor (it is) that I never seemed to make time or energy for. Well, as with what happened last time — I was plunged into it. Of note, I finished my major studies of horary as I began them — on the Moon in Gemini around 18° — which is the Moon & ° of the native of said life event. And it is a full Moon, tomorrow. Ha! Everything happens for a reason. No coincidences in astrology or life! Just can’t make this stuff up!!

And in both cases, it helped me find closure to the distressing events! Go Astrology!!!! :D And *bow* to the cosmos.


Please excuse my Saturn

  • While I’m a professional astrologer, I’m a student of Horary. As of December 16, 2013 (Almost full Moon Gemini, now @ 18°53’28” – declination 19°33’07” *)- I’ve spent the last two months, over 200 charts, and over 400 hours studying horary. It is NOT simple or easy – at least not for me. It’s very Saturnian, and rule based. Not a lot of winging it, is accepted or helpful. Horary is traditional (Saturn) astrology, and not the modern (Uranus) kind, that I usually practice. I will likely make mistakes. Take my judgement with a grain of salt. If you don’t like the judgement, ignore it. If you want your question handled professionally, consult an expert.
  • Currently, I’m answering questions about lost inanimate objects and love. My professional practice is focused on love, in general. I have a fully aspected Venus (except for Mercury — because I need to be Aries there!! :D Aries is on my 3rd house cusp, but Mercury is in Virgo conjunct SN and in the 8th)
  • I will choose the questions I want to answer. Just because you left a comment (with your question), doesn’t mean you’ll get an answer to your question. Don’t attempt to appeal to my emotions. I will close the FREE option, whenever I desire to do so (and likely without warning). Eventually I will charge for this service, and eventually it will be a lot (understandably).
  • The chart may not be readable. I reserve the right not to offer an explanation for it — no time.
  • I reserve the right to refuse your question, and not offer an explanation for it — no time.
  • I will use a number of different horary methods. I reserve the right not to tell you which one, or how I’ve arrived at a yes or no answer. Again, it usually comes down to time. So while you might see me explaining one chart, I may not explain another. I’m kind of flakey like that.
  • If I post the chart, I’m happy for ANYONE to offer a horary comment on it. If it’s a negative comment about my judgement, do have some respect for yourself and consider how your criticism is coming across to me and others.

What do I need to do to get this free horary reading with Abella, so that it’s as accurate as possible?

  1. You must contact me (regarding this horary question) ONLY on my blog, in a comment (associated with this blog post). Not on Twitter, Facebook, email, or anywhere else. I may allow location to be privately messaged. ASK.
  2. There is an option to do the horary, when the astrologer comes to understand the question (and base the birth details on that — but I’m not there yet! :)
  3. This must be YOUR question — not about someone else. It can not be a question you’ve asked horary before. You’ve got ONE shot at your question. Form it well.
  4. The birth details of the question: Month, day, year, location, time when you came to understand your question clearly.
  5. Some background information surrounding your question.
  6. Patience and gratitude.  Do provide a follow-up to the horary judgement given.


What is gratitude? Gratitude is showing appreciation, and acknowledging help given — through tangible actions. I’m BIG on giving and receiving gratitude! And it inspires me to keep giving, for free. Part of the word gratitude is Gratis, meaning free or without charge. I’m BIG on people having an attitude of freely giving (without thought on what they get in return) if that is not their default pattern, or if they think they have nothing to give (you do, by the way — stock up on some self-esteem as it’s good for you and everyone around you). I can’t tell you how much I despise takers, really. Can’t. I’m the exact, extreme opposite. I’ve got Sagittarius on my 12th, with Jupiter Libra in the 9th. Though I’ve been learning to take more (…especially considering most people are takers. So this is a positive approach to that). Neither extremes are good, in my opinion.

Gratitude balances things out. I give. You take. You give. I take.

How can you show me your gratitude? Promote my work, websites, blog. Add me to your Twitter list. Join my Facebook page. Provide reviews. Retweet. Share. Etc. Recommend me to friends, followers, clients, and wallowers (it rhymed, so i had to but it’s not even a word, I think! LOL). Purchase an astrology session (Because you’re worth it, and because I’m worth it). Engage me. Share with me. Care about me.

These are just a spattering of ways you can show your gratitude.

I help people, for free, even though I do this professionally (for a living, a scant living — at that). I help people, for free, because I want you to benefit from my experience and wisdom. I help people. for free, because those of us that can’t afford — should get the help, so they can. I help people, for free, because I love sharing. I help people, for free, because they’ve helped me.


It may seem like I have a lot of time on my hands, but I don’t.  I multi-task, and I really ought to spend more time on making money. Oh Saturn in Taurus, say it ain’t so?! I dream of having a personal assistant, no kidding! Oh, and I’m popular! Wonder why. Oh, I’m really generous with my time and wisdom and I’m usually quite friendly, sociable, and approachable (unless a line has been crossed!). That’d do it! LOL – Also see Sagittarius on the 11th, with Jupiter Libra in the 9th. You’re not the only one in my world — there are hundreds upon hundreds, at least! hehe Many of whom do attempt to have a one-on-one private connection and often inappropriately. Consider THAT! ;P

So, please know that it might take some time to provide a judgement, if I’ve offered one. I’m happy though for kindly reminders, after an appropriate length of time has gone by. :D Note: Less is more, to too-busy people. I am more (writing), but you need to be less (writing) or I will get overwhelmed and tune out! ;P

Horary Questions

Choose only ONE question, from below (remember that I might not answer it). I’m currently only answering questions on the topics below. You can copy and paste the question in your comment, along with the birth (of the question) and background details., Remember, less is more. Keep your writing tight, and clear. Don’t make me think too much. My head is full enough! LOL


  1. Make sure your question is important and meaningful to you.
  2. Don’t ask something you’ve already pondered too much (you already have an idea about the outcome), or not enough (too early to tell).
  3. Provide some detail, to put your question into context or for me to watch out for related “strictures” — things I need to consider or not consider, depending upon the background of your question.

For love horaries, you can add your zodiac sun signs — if you like, but it’s unnecessary.

Lost Objects Horary:

Tell me what X is, and how long it’s been missing.

  • Where is X? (X is the lost inanimate object)

Love Horary:

You don’t need to tell me who X is though an initial or initials would be nice. My preference is for questions that will have a known outcome over the next couple of weeks. Why? Because I would like to know if my judgement was accurate or not. Remember, I’m a student of horary. :D

  • Will X come back, by (include date)?
  • Will I see X again, by X (include date)?
  • Is X cheating on me?
  • Did X cheat on me?
  • Does X love me?
  • Will X & I be friends?
  • Will X and I marry?
  • Will X and I have a relationship?
  • Will X and I divorce?
  • Will I have a relationship by (include date)?
  • Will I find love in the next (insert number of weeks, months)?
  • Will X call me by (include date)?
  • Will my partner be rich?
  • Is X dating someone else me?
  • What does X think about?
  • What does X feel for me?
  • Is X thinking about me?
  • Will X like my letter, email, phone message (insert communication type)?
  • Is my relationship with X, over?
  • Is X the right person for me?
  • Does X want me back?
  • Will X and I have sex (sex again)?
  • Does X miss me?
  • What is the outcome of dating X?
  • What will my next romantic partner be like, look like?


Do what you will.

Day of Moon, hour of Jupiter – Sun in 8th house


Opposition Aspect: Resolving & Healing it

It’s been awhile since I’ve blogged; however, I’ve written a lot — mostly over on my Twitter page.

Healing and Resolving the Opposition aspect: Do one or the other in the extreme and then have the other planet as back-up support and eventual outcome!


Neptune Opposition Saturn.

Neptune, ruling Pisces, is the planet of delusion, romance, fantasy, magic, drugs, being drugged, diversions, etc.

Saturn, ruling Capricorn, is the planet of seriousness, tasks, responsibilities, restrictions, reality, delays, etc.

An opposition is like the two ends of a bridge. An opposition is a connector between two sides, of the same coin.When an opposition works well, it’s like a pair of glasses, in that it assists your vision.

The native with Neptune opposition Saturn vacillates between illusion and reality;  escapism and hardship. Resolving this is as simple as choosing one planet over the other, and then understanding that the other planet serves as support and eventual outcome.For example, lets say this native chooses to have a “FANTASY” romance.

Eventually that fantasy is going to End OR positively, that fantasy will become a dream come true (Saturn manifesting Neptune’s desires). Negatively, Saturn can burst the Neptune romance bubble. Saturn also exists, in this scenario, to support the fantasy romance. You still have to pay the bills, wash the dishes, etc.So you don’t get rid of the other planet. And Neptune will support the realistic relationship (should you choose Saturn over Neptune) with an injection of weekend romance, Valentine’s dates, and movie night.

So the other planet remains in the picture (with a smaller role).

Instead of working against each other (the negative and natural manifestation of an opposition), you choose ONE Driver and then have the other as the “back-seat driver” — acting somewhat like a conjunction, but not quite.

Do you have an opposition? What planets are involved? What do you find is your key issue? Who would you like driving, most of the time? And how can the second planet support this?


The Astrology of Projections & How to Heal Them

Projections are insidious and pose a difficult paradox to solve, as one attempts to weave through the labyrinth. Projections are extremely hard to get a handle on, as our unconscious often finds the material too upsetting to handle openly and directly.

In astrology, personal projections are the domain of the 1-7th house axis.
Non-personal projections are the domain of the 4-10th house axis.

Have you had someone project their shadow or gift on to you, and after self and external reflection — your impression is that while the projection may have something to do with you, it is more likely material that the projector is attempting to work out?

Are you saying: I’m fine or comfortable with that? I’m not too much, or too little of what they’re saying about me? Then the projector may be using you as a scapegoat to work out their issues.

If that’s the case, here are six ways to respond to, and resolve projections from others so that you don’t get tied up into the drama of their psyche AND so they begin to do their own dirty work:

1. Yes, I know. And…? (Alt: I know I am, but what are you?)
2. Oh — so you’ve been working with that (doing that, etc.)?
3. Thanks, but no thanks.
4. Let me tell you about a time when…
5. That’s interesting..
6. Oh — Is that what you think about yourself / your motive? (Alt: I know you are, but what am I?)

Four ways to learn from what you project:

1. Notice the negative and positive things you say about and to other people. You know — the judgements, assumptions, and character flaws and character brilliance.
2. How does or has that manifested in your life? Do you want more of less of it?
3. Resolve, Redeem, or Renew. Resolve, Redeem, or Renew. Turn negative, into positive. Enhance positive, and see the dark side. There is no light, without the dark.”
4. Forget about it. Stop noticing it in others. When you do, nod. When they do, nod. Don’t give it energy, or weight. Understand. Have compassion.

If you haven’t learned much about projections (outside of what I wrote above), here are a few informative links:

Wiki Answers on Projection & Transference | Shadow Projection is Its Own Medicine | The Astrology Place Note: The out of print Liz Greene book noted at The Astrology Place is probably connected to this book (a less expensive option). Barriers and Boundaries: The Horoscope and the Defenses of the Personality. I haven’t read either so I am not certain of their contents.

One day I hope to gain a degree in sociology/psychology. And I would like to institute “Projection therapy”. Which would be as simple as: What don’t you like about another? And the therapeutic dialogue part would be to help the patient acknowledge, accept, and resolve that within their own make-up. As well as find solutions to problems, as all answers are contained within — and are connected to the universal mind.

Projections are a painful truth, and is a self-healing tool.

“The unconscious side of us has a different schedule to the conscious side. It wants to get a certain experience by constellating into our lives those lessons the unconscious needs. It does this by manifesting outside events and influences that override the efforts of the conscious to avoid them.” Alison Chester-Lambert from Astrology Reading Cards.

If you were not aware before, be aware now — anything, I mean ANYTHING you say about someone else can easily be connected back to you. There is an interplay between yourself and other or the internal and external.

You can’t know, what you don’t know exists.

The one exception (that I can readily assess) is if you are *trained* to observe and see something in another such as a psychologist, officer of the peace, etc. and without a doubt do not possess that particular trait in abundance, or of note. Another example is if someone points out a trait or projection to you such as a friend, family member, or the projector themselves.

Do note that even if you do not utter projections out loud, they are still occurring. And just because someone says something about someone else, does not mean they are not aware of that very same thing existing within their own selves. In other words, not everyone is ignorant to their projections. You can find this out, if you will, by questioning them (see Six Ways above).

And if you find yourself saying something nice or naughty about me, do consider that it’s probably a projection — for good or evil and may not actually be my truth.

Astrology Angular House Projection Examples:

Mars in or on the 7th (Barack Obama, Colin Farrel, Stephen Arroyo, Sylvia Brown, Janet Jackson, Demi Lovato, Tina Turner, Mariah Carey, Adolf Hitler, Tom Cruise, Rihanna, Whitney Houston: The native may think that others are the one’s being aggressive and competing against them. This may be true, as the native attracts similar creatures, but they TOO are also of such a temperament. The positive projection of Mars in 7th is attracting sexual, active, and fearless partners.

Neptune in or on the 10th: The native projects the unconscious of the people. The people also project their collective conscious on to the native. This placement is often great for spiritual leaders (Jesus, Mother Theresa, Oprah Winfrey, Liz Greene, Aleister Crowley) who are in a position to redeem and rehabilitate their sisters and brothers. But also great for actors and performers, who need to readily connect to and carry away the spirit of the viewing audience (Orlando Bloom, Clint Eastwood, Russel Crowe, Trent Reznor, Bob Marley).


Listen to Paul Levy speak about Wetiko / Projections…

The following is an example of 4th/10th non-personal projections. Alanis Morissette: Mars on 10th, Moon Scorpio (Pluto) in 4th. Moon Square Mars. Mars in 12th. Mars Square Uranus, Venus, Moon.

“Not All Me”

I wear their faces all on top of my face
I am the perfect target screen
For your blindly fueled rage
I bare the brunt of your long buried pain
I don’t mind helping you out
But I want you to remember my name

It’s not all me
It’s not all my fault
I may remind you, but I won’t take it all on

Past riddled rage
I see the buttons I engage
With my dignity in place?
I’m all too happy to assuage

It’s not all me
It’s not all my fault
I may remind you, but I won’t take it all on

Lest I find my voice
Find the strength to stand up to you
Lest I stay to my limit
And only take on what is mine to

We are a team
I’m here to help mend and reseam
All I trigger unknowingly
A job I hold in high esteem

It’s not all me
It’s not all my fault
I may remind you, but I won’t take it all on

It’s not all me
It’s not all my fault
I may remind you, but I won’t take it all on
I’ll only take some of it


Astrological Sign Tolerance: One doesn’t exist without the other

Astrological opposition tolerance: One doesn’t exist without the other.

For example: A Leo, is just as much of an Aquarius — flipped over. An Aquarius is just as much of a Leo, flipped over. And in the middle, they meld and mesh.

Take the keyword for Aquarius as being *intellectual* and mash that up with a keyword for Leo – *vanity*. What might you get from an Aquarius? Intellectual vanity!

How about a keyword for Leo being bossy, and a keyword for Aquarius – teacher. A Leo might be a bossy teacher.

Now lets use entirely positive or neutral keywords. A keyword for Leo is creative. A keyword for Aquarius is unique. So together, both Leos and Aquarius’ (when firing on all cylinders) are Unique creators.

What’s your Sun sign, what are two distinct keywords for each of those signs, mash them together, and what do you get?


VOC: Why will “Nothing will come of this”? What’s this about void-of-course Moons?

VOC Moons (What’s up with all that?): Why shouldn’t you start something new during a VOC Moon? I’m thinking it’s as simply as this: Because you won’t be putting enough “energy” into it.

I generally feel incredibly lazy, for a normally highly productive state, during VOC’s. I simply don’t want to do ANYTHING but vegetate. Try as I might to do otherwise. Especially during a Waxing VOC Moon…

Energy is matter. Matter is money. Money matters. Energy matters. Energy is matter. Matter is manifestation. Manifesting matters. Energy matters. Energy is matter. Energy is matter. Matter is a corporeal being. A human being matters. Energy matters. Energy is matter.

The VOC Moon is unaspected, and therefore is receiving NO energy, impetus, or sparks of initiation.

If you don’t put “energy” into anything, you can’t really get anything out of it, which is likely why astrologers refer to Lily as suggesting that,
“Nothing will come of this,” during a VOC Moon.
Mystery (for myself) solved.
Nothing to be superstitious about.

However, I will say this: I still firmly believe in — whatever is supposed to happen, happens. Right now, is right for now. Nothing is ever a waste of time. etc…

So if you do do anything during a VOC, it was meant to happen. See how your story plays out, and work with it darlings.

~ Abella Arthur

After I wrote this, I went looking for support of what I’m saying and ran into this…


Looking to Jupiter
03-27-2008, 10:31 PM

The reason why I have been so keen to actually find Lilly’s wording in the book, is because it was brought to my attention yesterday, by a very reputable astrologer, that he doesnt actually say that nothing will come of the matter.

Lilly states
“All manner of matters goe hardly on (except the principall significators be very strong) when the moon is void of course; yet somewhat she performs if void of course, and be either in Taurus, Cancer, Sagittarius or Pisces.”

Now personally, I think this reputable astrologer is totally right. It says nothing of the sort that the void of course moon, means nothing will come of the matter.

The first thing I think of when reading this Old English, is the phrase, “To be hardly done by”. Meaning in fact, to have had a hard time with something. Like this astrologer mentioned to me by email yesterday, (I’m not sure I can say who this astrologer was, as they dont know I am writing this:confused:), I think it is actually saying in Lilly’s text that, that the void of course moon, will actually make the situation queried about, hard. Are we infact, by saying that nothing will come of the matter, making decisions for the querent? It may be, that some folk will decide to not go ahead with doing something because of the struggle they may have with the matter, but I dont think it is our decision.

I wanted to find out more about the wording of this term “goe hardly”, because I think now a days, we are have read the term “hardly”, to mean “barely”, which I have found to be wrong.

I refer you to something I found on line at “Answers.com” ( I need to go and check this information again from another source), but I think we have a significant problem here.

Middle English hardli, from Old English heardlīce, harshly, bravely, from heard, hard. See hard (http://www.answers.com/topic/hard).]USAGE NOTE In Standard English, hardly, scarcely, and similar adverbs cannot be used with a negative. The sentence I couldn’t hardly see him, for instance, is not acceptable. This violation of the double negative rule is curious because these adverbs are not truly negative in meaning. The sentence Mary hardly laughed means that Mary did laugh a little, not that she kept from laughing altogether, and therefore does not express a negative proposition. But adverbs like hardly and scarcely do share some important features of negative adverbs, even though they may not have purely negative meaning. For one thing, they combine with any and at all, which are characteristically associated with negative contexts. Thus we say I hardly saw him at all or I never saw him at all but not I occasionally saw him at all. Similiarly, we say I hardly had any time or I didn’t have any time but not I had any time and so on. Like other negative adverbs, hardly triggers inversion of the subject and auxiliary verb when it begins a sentence. Thus we say Hardly had I arrived when she left on the pattern of Never have I read such a book or At no time has he condemned the movement. Other adverbs do not cause this kind of inversion. We would not say Occasionally has he addressed this question or To a slight degree have they changed their position. The fact is that adverbs such as hardly can be said to have a negative meaning in that they minimize the state or event they describe. Thus hardly means “almost not at all”; rarely means “practically never”; and so forth. This is why they cannot be used with another negative such as not or none. See Usage Notes at double negative, rarely, scarcely.

Now as you can see, modern usage of the word hardly, refers to rarely, scarcely. But if you note, in old english terminology, the term actually means harshly, bravely. Which actually brings the modern translation of Lilly, that nothing will come of the matter, to being a total fabrication.


• adverb 1 scarcely; barely. 2 only with great difficulty. 3 no or not (suggesting surprise at or disagreement with a statement).

Please note, the second meaning of the word “only with great difficulty”.
I think it is presumptious of us, to assume that the term only means, that nothing will come of the matter, when this meaning also exists. We are not doing querents a service, in telling them that nothing will come of the matter, when in fact we should be telling them things could happen with great difficulty


03-29-2008, 03:42 AM
The way Deb Houlding explained it to me was, besides the Ivy Goldstein-Jacobson “nothing will come of the matter” context, that the void of course moon describes a ‘lapse of energy’, wherein nothing can move forward because there is not strength or power available to move it; much like the wind suddenly going out of a boat’s sails. When the Moon leaves VOC, the wind suddenly puffs the sails out again. (This is how I view it in my mind, at least.)Cheers,



On a public post on Facebook, Tamara Innerpowerastro explains it like this:

Abella, here is my analogy about driving a car (or train) for the Void moon: When the moon is making aspects you are driving with direction, and possibly speed. You know where you are going and you heading there; you’re more focused, less distracted.
When it goes void, its like your car has slipped into neutral, you can’t make turns and you’re certainly not driving with direction anymore. Maybe you enter another lane unexpectedly and end up in another city. Hopefully you don’t drive off the traintracks! or off the road into a ditch! lol

Anyway, if you accumulated enough speed and directional focus while the moon was NOT void, you could theoretically continue “coasting” into the void moon phase, at least in the beginning of it.
But if you START a project while the moon is in Void phase, you will likely start the ignition while in a ditch or off the road and it will be very difficult to get back on the road and out of “neutral”.

I usually post the Void moon phases on my fanpage & twitter for those who follow it, and I encourage readers to work/accomplish according to this schedule. I certainly do. And there seem to be a lot of “voids” over the next week in the EST time zone.


Cosmic Weather: Now until August 9th, 2013 by Abella Arthur

“Cosmic Weather”
by Abella Arthur

I hope you survived or made the best of the Mercury Rx in Cancer, which heralded much mayhem related to water, electrical, and timing troubles. For example, the media was in a frenzy regarding the birth date of the royal baby with the changed due changes. The question everyone wanted to know was: When will Catherine, the Duchess of Cambridge (formerly Kate Middleton), break her water (Cancer is connected to water and babies)?

Mercury is now direct, and although there may be some cleaning up to do and residual snafus — we are in the clear until Mercury Rx in Scorpio arrives on October 21, with its shadow period starting on October 1. Stay tuned to future editions on what will likely happen during this retrograde.

A shout out to Leos!
Happy Birthday!

Leo season has officially arrived (July 22 to August 22). Leo is the time of year where we’re enjoying the last days of the extra warm Sun — we play, create, BBQ, get together with friends and loved ones outside, and follow through or finalize the summer plans we came up with earlier in the year.

Venus enters Virgo (July 22 to Aug 16). Venus (the planet of love, beauty, femininity, artistry, and partnership) combines with Virgo (the planet of purity, service, analysis, natural health, and daily work).

Between July 30 and August 3, you may notice an increase in weddings, romances, and marriage proposals.  That’s because this Venus Virgo is sextile (opportunity, activity) to the Moon’s Node (destiny, future) and trine Mars (the planet of action, speed, assertion, masculinity, and sexuality).

During this time, as Mars trines the Moon’s Node, we will collectively be rethinking what we do for a living, perhaps job hunting or interviewing, changing work friends, getting our homes ready for the fall, and planning for upcoming educational pursuits.  Do be careful — especially when you’re working around the home — as Mars squares Uranus. Squares indicate obstacles and frustrations. Uranus is the planet of surprises, sudden upsets, and doing it your own way. However, if there are any upsets — they are likely to be remedied just as quickly due to Mars trining (harmony, everything is alright), Chiron (wounds).

As we wrap up this edition of the East Yorker, Jupiter will Oppose Pluto (August 3 to 12th).  All that love in the air, weighs in. Do pay attention to your daily habits, including your health and well-being, along with the tasks you choose to do. What seems like a good thing at the time, later shows itself to have had a powerfully negative effect. Control or limit your urges.


Uranus Square Pluto: Autonomy vs Responsiblity, Rebellion vs. Structure, Individual vs. Society

Uranus Square Pluto: Autonomy vs Responsibility, Rebellion vs. Structure, Individual vs. Society

I’ve met a lot of people in my life who want to do whatever the hell they want to do, but don’t want to suffer the consequences of bad results, or take responsibility for their desires.

Some (if not all) of these same people seem to also think that they are responsible. I think they mean: Responsible to themselves! Not to those they affect, and they DO affect others. They’re not on an island.

And that’s why society has rules. It has rules for people who have a tendency to think about themselves only. And don’t you feel a little safer because of that enforced civility? Because if we didn’t have it, what would your world look like? And how would you be affected?

In the past, it became normal for me to just be responsible for other people’s actions (because they wouldn’t) so in every job I took on, I ended up being promoted to positions of authority (management and supervision) because of it.

But for the last three to four years, I’ve been seriously rebelling against this. I’m confronting people, and telling them that if they want to do what they want to do — they’ll need to be responsible for its outcome — not me. So yes, you can do what you want to do, but don’t expect me or anyone else (for that matter) to handle the fall-out, should it occur.

As a Capricorn rising, with the planet Saturn in Taurus rising first — I can not understand the behavior of, “I’ll do whatever I damn well please, and take no responsibility for it either” very well.

How does this work? How do you get to do whatever you want, and yet suffer no consequence or refuse to take responsibility yet get the green light? Are you on an island affecting no one else? How is it that any person of authority and responsibility would let the other do whatever they want?

I imagine there are elements of anarchy and discordia (Eris) at play. By the way, my Eris & Chiron in Aries is in my 3rd house, with Aries on the third house cusp.

But I just wonder how an entire society could work with wild humans, on a regular basis. Are there special people, who don’t have to play by the rules? I believe my queries are connected to the Uranus Aries square Pluto Capricorn celestial event we’re experiencing and somehow at a microcosmic level — I’ve found myself being a large part of it.

I’m wondering if harmony and understanding, between rebellion and structure — can occur.

I’m finding for many of the world’s people,  the sentence — Pluto Cap Sq. Uranus Aries — is reading as: Growing pains and tension created, through initiating rebellion, that destroy structures to overthrow authority and governing bodies.

But what if it could also read as:

Overcoming obstacles to radically change social rules, that will provide greater autonomy and freedom for everyONE.

And is there a way to TRINE this sucker? What can we learn from this transit? What are we to learn from this transit? How can we get our needs met, while meeting the needs of others? Both as society, and as an individual?


Your Two Week Horoscope (June 21st to July 4th, 2013) by Toronto Astrologer, Abella Arthur

Your Two Week Horoscope

AriesAries: You will meet your match very soon while enjoying fun in the sun. Widening your relationships and connections become a hot priority for you.


TaurusTaurus: Contemplating new enterprises and adventures troubles you some. Don’t give up what you already have. Expansion, rather than contraction is likely.


GeminiGemini: Your mind has been on the go — racing with thoughts. After a lot of mental tension, and growth, you’ll receive a much needed rest from your brain; however, you’ll keep moving social butterfly.


CancerCancer: On June 22, the Sun enters the sign of Cancer. Happy Birthday! Mercury is also retrograde in your sign on the 26th, so this means you’ll take time out to re-evaluate where and whom to offer your support. Charitable and volunteer service is a possibility as it builds your passion for community. Also, enjoy Jupiter coming into your sign on the 30th. There might be new family or old family coming back. Your home, and family expands.

LeoLeo: Your artistic and love opportunities are beginning to bloom. You’re being shown the light, out of the dark. Reach towards it, and gain much needed additional resources.


VirgoVirgo: A position of authority is offered to you. You might take just because you were asked to do it; however, you would rather work behind the scenes unnoticed. This isn’t quite your time to shine yet.


LibraLibra: Many want your attention, and you’re attempting to fend off questions about your next move. Instead of allowing others to overwhelm your energy, tell people they’re going to have to wait for your answer.


ScorpioScorpio: You’re faced with a choice of what you know, and something new – what’s the sweeter deal? A destined teacher of sorts comes into your life – welcome them in.


SagittariusSagittarius: Expanding your horizons and being on the move, is what would make you feel most comfortable right now but there is a feeling of being stuck and powerless – without a voice to move forward.


CapricornCapricorn: Pack your bags for an unknown adventure. Don’t think too much about it, just get out there and bust a move.


AquariusAquarius: This is a great time to help your fellow man out by doing some social activism, a fundraiser, or physical activity. Meeting with friends offers refreshing new ideas.


PPiscesisces: Seek or offer comfort from or to a broken soul, due to spiritual or financial loss. The next little while will tax your emotional reserves. Keep your calm and balance when the world spins around you.
Toronto Astrologer, Abella Arthur


Remember the Future. The Future is in Astrology. Uranus / Aquarius.



Mercury Retrograde (Rx) in Cancer, June 26th to July 20, 2013

“Cosmic Weather”

Mercury Retrograde in Cancer by Abella Arthur

Locally published in the East Yorker paper

“Abella Arthur has practiced astrology for over 20 years. She is available for private consultations and parties — putting the cosmos into a personal perspective for you and your loved ones. She is also passionate about teaching astrology – helping you translate and read the operating and repair manual of yourself, and those you care about.”

3 of Cups

3 of Cups Tarot Card, Mercury in Cancer.

On June 26th ,2013 — Mercury (the planet of trade, communication, siblings, short distance travel, the nervous system, and basic education), will go retrograde (Rx) in the sign of Cancer (home, domestic issues, mother, care-taking, food, emotional sensitivity, and moods). This means that the planet appears to travel backwards in the sky, and won’t operate like it usually does.

More sensitive folks will feel the effects starting from June 10th. The official end date of the retrograde is July 20th , but it can be felt until August 3.

This retrograde may have an extra effect on you or those that affect you, if any planets are in the signs of Cancer, Scorpio, or Pisces.

And if you were born with your Mercury, retrograde — you may avoid all the challenging aspects of this celestial event.

When you think about how this cosmic event affects you, add “re” to every action you consider taking: reflect, rejuvenate, reignite, renew, recycle, repeat, redo, resolve, research, review, etc.

With the Rx (℞), you may also want to reconsider any prescriptions for physical, spiritual, financial, or mental health.

You’ll also hop on the mental time machine — taking a trip back to get things finished up or sorted out, that were left behind as it relates to Cancerian themes.

Mechanical and electrical things can break down, can have power fluctuations, work slowly, or be delayed — travel, trade, and communication devices included. Mail, credit and debit cards, and payments can also be problematic – especially family related ones.

Anything not previously fixed or resolved before, or was on its way out, will likely be on its last legs during the retrograde.

Getting things fixed, backing up data, and resolving outstanding problems that Mercury governs and is related to Cancerian themes — is a positive, successful, and productive approach to this celestial happening.

If you’re signing contracts, buying machines or electronics — do your research, and read the fine print three times! Better yet, have someone else go triple check it for you.

Restarting of old relationships and connections may occur during a retrograde; however, avoid starting a new relationship or connection. Frankly, it’s not the best time to get married, unless it’s a re-marriage. Expect things to start late, or be delayed along with emotional highs and lows.

And if you break up during a retrograde, there’s a good chance you’ll get back together again (maybe during the next retrograde), or sort things out more clearly once it’s over.

If you have siblings, they may be hard to reach or misunderstandings could abound. However, it’s also a time where you’re likely to rehash old stories, or issues and might get somewhere with it this time around.

More things to do, or not to during this retrograde:

Get and send payments before the 26th of June. If your computer, telephone, or other communication devices haven’t been in good working order, take care of them. Back up household data. Re-consider or review your household lease, and insurance policies. If any vehicle or moving mechanical device (bike, car, lawn mower, etc) hasn’t been working well, fix it. Send out mail, and packages so they’re received by June 24th, or the recipient may receive it late. If that’s not possible, and budget allows — use tracking devices, insurance, and/or faster delivery methods during a retrograde. It’s not a good time to bring up new topics, but it’s a good time to revisit old topics – especially with family. Be careful not to send out messages to the wrong people. Reflect on your connection with family, and possibly reach out to someone you haven’t connected with in awhile. Nurture, and provide comfort to neglected loved ones. If your head doesn’t seem clear (to make decisions, or share an important bit of news), wait until it is clear. Avoid buying new electrical, mechanical or communication equipment. Same goes for bringing in new family members, including pets, or hiring people. Go over any work, especially home related, that hasn’t been completed yet (ie renovations, spring cleaning, etc.). Avoid starting a new training course, or anything that does with teaching new material — start this before the retrograde begins. Give yourself extra time to get things done, and get to places. Devise plan B’s.

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Mercury Cancer Rx Personal & Other Events

I have no planets or celestial objects in Cancer. Cancer on the DC.

July 22, 2013 The royal baby is born. There was much mayhem around incorrect or faulty due dates. The baby finally snuck in, just shy of the Sun entering Leo. He’s a Cancer!

July 21, 2013 Went to get my phone replaced, and the store’s computer system was down. I’ll wait until Wednesday, day of Mercury to try again.

July 20, 2013 Mercury goes direct.

Between July 10th and 20th: Front door alarm not working.

July 10, 2013 Fixed kitchen sink that was clogged, and began clogging around the time of the Rx.

July 9, 2013 Drivers seem to be coming out of nowhere. Cycling feels a little more dangerous then usual.

July 8, 2013 http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/toronto/story/2013/07/08/toronto-weather-heavy-rain.html

Cancer stellium (Sun, Moon, Mercury, Jupiter) Cycled in torrential rain pour. Did it ever cry rain! Rain jacket did not protect my cell phone, as it won’t turn on now due to water getting inside. Hopefully it will resurrect with a new battery or something. Resurrected my old cell phone, as a temporary replacement. Almost skidded out on my bike, with the deep amount of water.  My rain gear is NOT enough, for these rains. Did not get them last year! It’s like rain on fibroids! Had a very long nap.

Also, water was out a doctor’s office and computer systems were not working at a hospital on this day (before the rainfall).

Update: Cell phone did not survive. Ordered a new one AFTER the Rx being over, and ordered a waterproof case as we face a water sign (Scorpio) Rx again  in October/November.

July 6th, 2013 Plane crashed. Train blew up.

Early July, 2013Renewing and going over rules of conduct, and what a group is about with its TRIBE.

June 28, 2013

Got a message from ebay saying, “Due to severe weather in the mid-Atlantic and Northeast regions, buyers and sellers may have limited ability to communicate and some deliveries may be delayed. Please consider this when leaving feedback.” Decided to Google it, because I had a suspicious they said it before and sure enough it was said during the Mercury Rx Sag shadow of end of October / November 2012 (1:46 am 30 Oct, 2012 EDT ).

June 24-25, 2013

Fast food joint, where I went to pick up a coffee, had all their systems down so couldn’t buy a coffee.

Then the next fast food joint had the manager doing the cash, cooking, and dressing of food because his staff members had not started their shifts yet — probably got extra business from the other fast food join that had their systems down!!

Just found out that it was announced a couple of days ago that Twinkie is COMING BACK on July 15th.  How more Mercury Cancer Rx can we get? Twinkies are coming back after going bankrupt during a Sag Merc Rx.

I mentioned that relationships that break-up during an Rx, may get back together by the next Rx but I didn’t think that that could also apply to anything that breaks up — can come back!

June 22, 2013

I’m calling people, at home, but keep missing them.

Try to back-up a hard drive, and it won’t allow me to do so because of space issues and passwords I don’t have. LOL… Will ask my tech friend (Mercury), when he stops by my home (Cancer) next week, to figure it out.

All Wii controllers suddenly had no battery juice! Rare for that to happen all at the same time. But hadn’t used them in awhile.  But that’s part of an Rx — reusing old technology / equipment.

Having trouble uploading pics from phone to web.


June 21, 2013

I just called Canada Post (Mercury Cancer), and got a Sex line (Adam and Eve). LOL I must have misdialed. Sounds very Venus-Mercury?! Oh wait, it IS. We are currently having an exact 22° Cancer Venus Conjunct Mercury mundane (world) transit. Also, it’s the day of Venus, in the hour of Mercury.  I’m loving this Cancer energy.

By the way, I meant to dial 1800 565 4362 and dyslexia got me dialing 1 800 565 4632 – Well, that added a zip to my day!! #astrogasm

Oh, and I called because I wanted to order some stamps online and I got locked out of my account for some weird reason. Apparently Canada Post is having a problem with this that they’re techies are trying to fix! Doh!

Songza must have made a mistake with a request for an ad-free music subscription. I thought it was a little early to be asking for money, or doing that sort of thing and apparently it is. It’s no longer showing up. I wish I did a screen shot of it. It was something like $3 or $4 per month. It’s not that much, but I wonder if a website — focused entirely on music can compete with something like Netflix.  So all the music you want to listen to for $4 — would you buy?

Semi-related, I’m not sure why I missed this.  But Mercury Cancer Rx is like Moon-Mercury Rx, or Mercury in the 4th house. Songza, for example, is very ‘home oriented’ with its playlist suggestions for: Bedtime, After-work, Cooking with Friends, Entertaining Friends, Cleaning up, Making out, etc. Having said that, it has out of home playlists too (but very much connected to the 3 of Cups tarot card) such as Dance Party, Drinking at a Bar, Girls Night Out, etc.

Mercury is anything communication related including speaking, writing, and can even be music related such as song and jingle writing.  The Moon is domestic, related to emotions, feelings, the mother, home, domestic issues, etc..

Went to go pick up the paper with my column in it, at the local cafe, and it wasn’t there!

June 20th (start of the shadow period)

Disaster Relief Expert, Jeff Heyd on Global News Calgary June 2013. Global TV Calgary interviews Jeff Heyd, who provides advice on preserving pictures, heirlooms, books, what items need to be replace and what types of products and cleaning products to use. He recommends not using bleach on porous surfaces.

In terms of professionals, if you aren’t able to get access right away, on your own you should start the drying process and throw out water logged items. He cautions that some surfaces such as concrete, can require professional drying/heating processes to prevent future mold growth.



The Social Psychology of Takers & Givers & Why It’s So Wrong

Do people understand that eventually if they keep “taking”, the “giver” is going to stop giving?

Some guy on a blog said there needs to be givers and takers for an equal balance, but said straight-up that most people are “takers”. Well, if most people are “takers”, and few are givers (I’m one) — then how the heck does that work?

I agree with him that ideally there are takers and givers between us; however, in equal or reciprocal measure. I take sometimes, you give sometimes, it switches — and it all works out in the end without keeping score.

But eventually the givers will stop giving because you don’t have to keep score to notice you’re on the losing end (giving, and giving and others taking, and taking).

I imagine the takers will go elsewhere when the giving stops. And if they never appreciated what they got, I guess then it doesn’t really matter — good riddance to them.

But it’s unfortunate when I have to hold back (against my own very generous nature) because there are too many takers ready to suck me dry. In other words, it comes down to me doing self-care, self-interest, and self-responsibility.

And if people, in general, gave more — I wouldn’t have to concern myself with holding back. I wouldn’t have to think about not exhausting myself, or avoid giving too much so I don’t give the message that it’s okay to use me — when it’s not.

But I’m Sun Leo in the 7th (ruled by Venus, Juno, Libra) and have Jupiter-Uranus Libra — so my views are a little skewed or screwed! LOL

Quinn commented on FB post I wrote about this topic: I can see why the business world was needed, most people are too tight fisted and have to be practically forced to hand over their cash. And I believe that to be sadly true. Another commenter said that they think it’s a “fear of loss”, “so they hold on so tight to what they have”. And another said, “I think people fear maybe that the giving will cease, and fear makes us all fucking stupid.”

What I find strange is that Takers like to think of themselves as decent people. And they are the first to say they don’t want to be lied to, cheated, or used — so they will go out of their way NOT to give you anything for fear of that happening… which means the have NO Problem doing that to you, even if you give to them!! LMAO… Can we get a Hell Yeah for PROJECTION?!?!?!

My mind boggles and bobbles at some people’s antics.
A selfish “friend” of mine said the other day that he had “nothing to give”… Oh My G! Really?! I will give these people the benefit of a doubt, and figure their sense of worth is soooo low that all they think they should be doing is taking since they feel they have NOTHING but that’s farthest from the truth.

I said, Can you help out? Can you move things? Can you do an errand? Can you make me a coffee? Can you use your musical talents to brighten my day?! I mean seriously, it’s as COP OUT to say you have nothing and the other person has everything so you must take from them.

Admit it: You’re selfish, and/or you feel worthless. And the one way for you to feel better is to take from those that aren’t, and don’t.

Some Guy’s Thoughts on Givers and Takers

My notes are in (parentheses) and in red.

A comment from the website, LovePanky, regarding an article on How to Stop Selfish People from Hurting YouHow can you recognize a selfish friend or partner, and how do you stop them from affecting your life? Find out how to deal with selfish people here.

“their are two types of people.
givers and takers. in order for a relationship to work you have to have a balance between the two

two takers will never work for obvious reasons (Very true)

two givers will work but only for so long until (Not true)

a giver is a person that likes to please people (TRUE!), and will go out of their way to do so (Because they want you to enjoy life as much as possible!!), givers how ever want appreciation in return (um, yeah!!), and two givers wont work because they will fight for appreciation , i know it sounds ridiculous (say what?!) but its true.

(Yes, I DO want appreciation but two givers CAN work. You BOTH appreciate each other. This guy is likely a Taker and doesn’t understand reciprocity in the first place. LOL.. Oh and you don’t have to “fight” for appreciation — just give it, where and when appropriate. hehe).

the reason why a giver and a taker work so well, is because they compliment each others personalities. one will be appreciated, the other will be content (if you’re being used, I’m not sure how the taker is appreciating that beyond seeing you as LESS than them and feeling smug about that), the fact is that there are more takers in the world then their are givers (can I get a Yeah-HA… you nasties… LOL), identify who who are and be honest with what you want, all humans are selfish in the end (well, this is true… more or less… due to humans wanting to survive but there’s a difference between greed, being selfish vs. sharing and being self-interested)“.

From All Things Healing, June’s Top Five Astro-Events by Michael Wolfstar

Jupiter enters Cancer on the 26th where it remains through mid-July 2014. Empathy increases tremendously over the coming year, allowing a renewed spirit of generosity, forgiveness and tolerance to enhance all relationships, especially between family members. Over the next three weeks, as Mercury retrogrades through Cancer, think about where you can feel most at home.


Astrology: The 2nd House of WORTH

When we know the language of astrology, we can all be gurus…

All language is divine, and astrology is no different. Astrology is essentially a bible of sorts.  A way to live. A guiding path or light, in dark days.

The second house has the sign of Taurus, ruled by Venus on its house cusp. Taurus is part of the element of Earth and it closely connects to Saturn (Capricorn), and Virgo (Vesta).

To learn more about the 2nd house, check out my full length article on the different aspects and themes.

We connect money to worth because money is one possible result of spending time (Saturn) and effort (Virgo/Vesta, sacrificial hard work).

Some people who have low self-esteem, low self-worth, or with the tendency of placing others above or before them — may give a lot of their time and effort (Taurean Venus-Saturn investment) without an equal level of return (money, love, appreciation, etc. — all 2nd house, Taurus, Venus themes), and when that happens — they feel used (ie Venus Square Saturn) and can give less (ie less love, 2nd house, Taurus, Venus themes). So people with low self-esteem, low self-worth, etc. may ALSO be takers, or become takers.

Many people are judged by much they are worth.

And your value can be based on a number of factors such as: How much money you have, who you know, and your status. But it can also be based on ROI – Return on Investment (eh, maybe business school was worth it after all! :P) — what potential you have to give back, or what you give back when someone else invests in you.

In my opinion — a smart, emotionally detached, and conscious person would say: If I put my time, and effort (and maybe money and other resources) into X — what are the chances that I will get anything back from X?

I don’t ask that question enough — maybe because the answer might not be what I want to discover.

When a person is of good stock or character, the ROI is often high.

Sometimes you will lose (giving to others), and sometimes you will gain (taking from others) — but in the end, when there’s a healthy give and take (Libra, Venus) — all are usually happy. And if you can’t give, you can’t truly love (Venus, 2nd House).

So when someone thinks you’re unworthy, they are saying that they think they’ll get less out of you, then they put into you — like a bank account (Taurus) that earns interest or not.

And if you think you’re unworthy, it may be because you do not give of your time, effort, and/or resources while taking what is not yours to really receive.

In that case, it would be true — that yes, you are indeed unworthy in that situation, event, circumstance, or as it relates to that person (as in — within a relationship) but only because you’ve made it a point to take rather than give.

And that’s how you can gain self-esteem and self-worth — by giving to others, without the thought of receiving, if you are historically a taker.

Because givers, who feel upset about others not appreciating what they give, actually DO have good self-worth and understand their value is high. That is unless the act of constant giving, and not taking — wears down on their own self-esteem and sense of value.

So the lesson of givers is to be in balance by taking a trip over to the 8th house (Pluto, Scorpio, who is co-ruled by Mars) — where they learn to accept and encourage people to give of their resources to them! They can also be in balance by giving to themselves, through the 2nd house.

The old saying goes: You need to spend money, to make money.
So you need to give, to get.
And if you are already giving, without getting — STOP.

You’ve spent too much, and profits will be slim or non-existent!

And if you’re getting, without giving and vice versa — there’s a cost to such an opportunity.

Eventually what you get, is going to dry up and you will also lose the opportunity of enjoying genuine self-esteem and self-worth. Or your self-worth and self-esteem will plummet, if you’ve been traditionally a giver.

So make the right decision.

Balance out your 2nd-8th opposition.

If you have been a taker, learn to give. Spend more, conserve less.

If you have been a giver, learn to take.  Spend less, conserve more.





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The Cosmic Weather: Mercury Retrograde Cancer (rx) by Abella Arthur ~ (Covers Friday June 7th to June 20th)

(Covers Friday June 7th to June 20th)

“Cosmic Weather”

by Abella Arthur

Locally published in the East Yorker paper

“Abella Arthur has practiced astrology for over 20 years. She is available for private consultations and parties — putting the cosmos into a personal perspective for you and your loved ones.  She is also passionate about teaching astrology – helping you translate and read the operating and repair manual of yourself, and those you care about.”

On June 26th ,2013 — Mercury (the planet of trade, communication, siblings, short distance travel, the nervous system, and basic education), will go retrograde (Rx) in the sign of Cancer (home, domestic issues, mother, care-taking, food, emotional sensitivity, and moods). This means that the planet appears to travel backwards in the sky, and won’t operate like it usually does.

More sensitive folks will feel the effects starting from June 10th. The official end date of the retrograde is July 20th , but it can be felt until August 3.

This retrograde may have an extra effect on you or those that affect you, if any planets are in the signs of Cancer, Scorpio, or Pisces.

And if you were born with your Mercury, retrograde — you may avoid all the challenging aspects of this celestial event.

When you think about how this cosmic event affects you, add “re” to every action you consider taking: reflect, rejuvenate, reignite, renew, recycle, repeat, redo, resolve, research, review, etc.

With the Rx (℞), you may also want to reconsider any prescriptions for physical, spiritual, financial, or mental health.

You’ll also hop on the mental time machine — taking a trip back to get things finished up or sorted out, that were left behind as it relates to Cancerian themes.

Mechanical and electrical things can break down, can have power fluctuations, work slowly, or be delayed — travel, trade, and communication devices included. Mail, credit and debit cards, and payments can also be problematic – especially family related ones.

Anything not previously fixed or resolved before, or was on its way out, will likely be on its last legs during the retrograde.

Getting things fixed, backing up data, and resolving outstanding problems that Mercury governs and is related to Cancerian themes — is a positive, successful, and productive approach to this celestial happening.

If you’re signing contracts, buying machines or electronics — do your research, and read the fine print three times! Better yet, have someone else go triple check it for you.

Restarting of old relationships and connections may occur during a retrograde; however, avoid starting a new relationship or connection. Frankly, it’s not the best time to get married, unless it’s a re-marriage. Expect things to start late, or be delayed along with emotional highs and lows.

And if you break up during a retrograde, there’s a good chance you’ll get back together again (maybe during the next retrograde), or sort things out more clearly once it’s over.

If you have siblings, they may be hard to reach or misunderstandings could abound. However, it’s also a time where you’re likely to rehash old stories, or issues and might get somewhere with it this time around.

More things to do, or not to during this retrograde:

Get and send payments before the 26th of June. If your computer, telephone, or other communication devices haven’t been in good working order, take care of them. Back up household data. Re-consider or review your household lease, and insurance policies. If any vehicle or moving mechanical device (bike, car, lawn mower, etc) hasn’t been working well, fix it. Send out mail, and packages so they’re received by June 24th, or the recipient may receive it late. If that’s not possible, and budget allows — use tracking devices, insurance, and/or faster delivery methods during a retrograde. It’s not a good time to bring up new topics, but it’s a good time to revisit old topics – especially with family. Be careful not to send out messages to the wrong people. Reflect on your connection with family, and possibly reach out to someone you haven’t connected with in awhile. If your head doesn’t seem clear (to make decisions, or share an important bit of news), wait until it is clear. Avoid buying new electrical, mechanical or communication equipment. Same goes for bringing in new family members, including pets, or hiring people. Go over any work, especially home related, that hasn’t been completed yet (ie renovations, spring cleaning, etc.).  Avoid starting a new training course, or anything that does with teaching new material — start this before the retrograde begins. Give yourself extra time to get things done, and get to places. Devise plan B’s.


Things I’ve noticed during this RX

  • People are talking about caring about each other more.
  • People are more open about giving to another.

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I haven’t uploaded art work in awhile. And I really do want to get back to drawing. I miss it when I’m not doing it.


How Self-Interested Are YOU? Are you a Giver or a Taker?

So… I have been going through “growing pains” ie. Doing self-work again, and I like to talk out loud while I’m repairing my problems, and hopefully get some careful feedback.

As a Leo Sun in the 7th, with Jupiter Libra (and there’s more indicators in my chart) I tend to give A LOT — far more than most people can reciprocate or rather CARE to reciprocate. Yet, I had complain/ed about reciprocation so I was advised to “do and give less” so there was room for the other to give.

I did. But this is what Isabel Hickey has to say about my Mercury in Virgo:
“[the native is] Apt to forget that the world is NOT ruled by reason, but by prejudice, emotion, and self-interest.”

Did I just hear that right? Me being reasonable means NOTHING to most of humanity?! LOL In fact, I imagine it would be a block in getting what most people want, because what they want isn’t reasonable, so no wonder! haha

Hickey said people are basically SELF-INTERESTED!!
Would it surprise you that I only thought self-interest occurred when people had to “pay for things” — not as it related to another human being?! LOL I’m in my 40’s!! And it wasn’t until about a year ago (through talk therapy where I have attempted to channel the SR Moon, Chiron, Neptune in 12th, constructively) that I was made aware of this fact.

I just thought people did the “right thing”, and it was always a head-scratcher when they didn’t.
But that could be my Virgo stellium getting in the way of reality (Saturn!). LOL

So anyway, I tried it out…

If I gave to people, but later recognized were “takers”, and then started to give less (to give them room to give) — what reality is there that would suggest they would start GIVING?! LOL…

Let me tell you folks: It doesn’t happen.
Some of these people may have been sociopaths (I know of one diagnosed case, after-the-fact). What they’re going to do is: Find someone else to give to them, and/or be the same as they were to you before.

How Self-Interested Are YOU? Are you a Giver or a Taker?

So the moral (antidote) of the story, is to: Hang around people who have good morals, and are givers (because I’m one, by nature). Your karma isn’t mine. Some people need to TAKE more (me), and others need to GIVE more (maybe you).

There are plenty of givers out there — I’ve met them. And frankly those are the people I need to spend more of my time with, because that’s where I will find reciprocity.

But my 8th house Virgo stell, sextiling my Neptune Scorpio 10th, is just not as attracted to healthy people, but I’m going to have to start. Because that’s the only way for ME to be healthy.

Of course, there’s an upside to being attracted to broken souls and that’s that I can care for them in a paid, therapeutic environment — where I don’t make them my personal problem.

Life, always a blast. <3


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Dream: Fixing a Flat Tire

Mundane Transit (at time of writing this):
Moon Aquarius Semi-Sextile Neptune Pisces

Related Personal SR:
Aries Rising. Moon, Chiron, and Neptune in 12th.

You know you’re a hard core cyclist when you start dreaming about flat tires, and being up for the challenge of fixing it. :)

In my dream, I had realized I was riding a “flat tire”. It was a little unnerving, because I wondered if I had done any damage to the rims, since I was thinking I rode them for a minute before it dawned on me that the tire was flat.

Anyway, once I got over the initial concern of damage AND changing a flat tire (I haven’t done this yet), I realized I had the tools and knowledge to do it.

So, as is usual with the way I view dreams — this is a metaphor for my life.

I’ve continued connecting, or doing things that could have (or did cause a little) damage, and it might be scary to think about how to make things right, with repairing, or fixing the damaged parts BUT I have the tools and knowledge to do it. The next step is to get it done.


Part 2: Marriage Around the Zodiac: Part 2: Marriage Around the Zodiac: Being Married — Married Life – Houses 8-12

What the cosmos (Planets, Stars, God, Gods, Goddesses, etc) teach us about being ready for, getting, and being married — through astrology!

Part 2: Marriage Around the Zodiac: Getting and being Married – Houses 8-12
See Marriage Around the Zodiac: Part 1, Initiating & Developing Desire for Getting Married – Houses 1-7

In the 8th (Scorpio, Pluto) house — “till death do us part”… where a bond and undying love exists….

This is where a marriage or partnership transforms or destroys your psyche, finances, physical, and psychological health. This is the house where we learn dive deeply into all matters that develop or remove us.

Your marriage is consummated (ah, so maybe sex happens BEFORE the honeymoon?!), and explore sex with another person within the intimate bond that gets even deeper. Here, you create your wills, and change insurance policies with your new benefactor.  Bank accounts may be joined, or a decision made on how resources are spent. Secrets are shared, and a transformation of psyche with our loved one — desired.

The 8th house is also the place where issues around who controls what, is determined.  But before we get into the thick of all that, we tally up all the money received from our wedding from both sides of the fence.

Then in the 9th (Sagittarius, Jupiter) house, the house of long distance travel, spirituality, philosophy, religion, justice, foreign things, etc — we take that “wedding money” that are friends from far and wide gave to us as presents, and we go off on a honeymoon!

Here we learn more about our partner’s deeper thoughts, and our spiritual life together.

In the 10th (Capricorn, Saturn), we come back from our honeymoon, and introduce ourselves to the world-at-large.  We are now accepted as a unit to be taken seriously.  We did IT. And it’s an exciting time! Our Mother or Father (whoever is represented by our 10th house) may feel a sense of detachment, or loss at this time — as the parental recognition understands that we are about to embark on creating our own family separate from our biological one. Here, we, as a couple, begin to create our “shared identity” and explore and share our roles for society to know of.

In the 11th (Aquarius, Uranus), we begin building mutual friendships, make new contacts with service providers, and associations that support our new relationship status. We think of our hopes and dreams, and we seek out those who will support us and them. With all this couples work, we might also start to remind ourselves of our past independent life, dreams, and causes we had before marriage. Are they shared with our partner? Have they changed? Do they still exist? If not, do I want them to? The honeymoon period begins its end in the 11th!

In the 12th (Pisces, Neptune), we may hide our disappointments and sorrow for what what had hoped would work out, but didn’t. We feel lost. Marriage may feel confining — like we can’t breathe. Have we lost our identity? Who are we separately, and as a couple? We take some time out. We may not connect as much with our mate. We may hide our feelings, and thoughts of disillusionment and despair. We may feel shame or guilt for not having the same feelings that we had previously, or for potentially hurting our mate. We may consider divorce, but have no readiness for it. Should I stay, or should I go? We may bury ourselves in escapes, so we don’t have to deal with these serious questions, just yet.

Stay tuned for Part 3: Around the bend again

Starting with the first house, where we FIND OURSELVES AGAIN! And hopefully renew our commitments, and vows. Until next time…


States or Stages of Relationship: Labelling

Note: I’m writing this, as if this were about me – it isn’t. At least not right now. :) It’s just a good way for me to write, placing myself in the shoes of each “relationship” type, so the writing is personal. Sorry for the confusion! :D

Current Mundane Transit: Naturally wrote during VOC Moon Capricorn. Naturally published during Moon Aquarius. Naturally means, with little or no forethought.

I’m a woman, interested in relationships with men, so I’m using the term boyfriend.

How do I label who is who?! Okay, lets break it down…

Me (1st house, Aries): I’m alone. I’m fully independent. This is my time with me, myself, and I. I do on my own. I enjoy on my own. I make decisions on my own, unfettered by the wishes of others.

How to Have a Relationship with Yourself

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Friend (11th house, Aquarius): A casual friend, associate, or acquaintance is someone I see or talk to and/or see once or twice a month — maybe even only a handful of times a year. We are not involved in each others personal lives, in any great way.  We mostly meet for the enjoyment of mutual interests, and causes. Distance is welcomed. And opinions are often fixed, with no overt desire for them to be on your side.

*Aries is Sextile Aquarius — they get along quite easily. In other words, one can can lead to the other quite easily. So You can be friends with people easily. Aquarius is more detached, and friend oriented so it will naturally accept the independence of Aries and not get wrapped up in its fiery nature. Basically it’s not a stretch. And Me (Aries) can become a boyfriend (Leo) because they are in Trine to each other.

4 Ways to be a Good Friend

Different Degrees of Friendship (Christian Angle)

Boyfriend (5th house, Leo): A boyfriend is someone I talk to almost, maybe even, every day. They care about my well-being. They are involved in my personal life. They help out wherever and whenever they can, with or without request. The do thoughtful things like giving me a massage when I complain of fatigue, picking me up a coffee on their way over to my place, surprising me with a home cooked meal or a poem, etc. We socialize two to three times a week. They attend most special occasions such as holiday events with family, my birthday, a work function, etc. They attend many recreational events with me. They’ve met my most important friends, and family.

Friends (Aquarius) may not turn into boyfriends. It can be an easier leap from Me to Lover / Lust (5th house) but I strongly prefer getting to know people, over time.  Growing from the cool Aquarius friendship, to a warmer Leo relationship. :)

7 Ways to be a Good Boyfriend

Being a Good Boyfriend

Companion / Lover (5-11th house, Aquarius-Leo): A companion is between a friend, and a boyfriend. This is someone whom I could speak to a few times a week. They may not care much about my well-being, and tend to have a more self-involved nature.  That’s good, because that means I can be more self-involved too without having to concern myself about meeting obligations that would come with a boyfriend or spouse. I have a lot of fun with this person, and they brighten my life mentally, emotionally, and maybe even physically (FWB). They are not generally seeking to better my life other than through their presence! They know about some of my personal life, but don’t really get involved with helping me solve my personal problems. We know when to give space, take time and back off, and when to see each other again. We don’t get bothered by this inconsistency. We may see each other once a week, or a handful of times a month. They might be counted on for the occasional need, upon request. They attend only the most important social gatherings.

Aquarius and Leo do not get along as much (being in opposition) but there’s still a solid connection. The Companion is the odd man out! This is really the limbo and unpredictable state — bouncing back and forth between feeling close, and feeling detached. Feeling like there’s something more, and feeling like there’s something less — or that they’re could be. Sun Opposite Uranus. So this connection type can have a hard time figuring out if they’re coming or going.

Definition of Casual Relationship

Are you having a Casual Relationship?

* I couldn’t find many good links on how to be a good companion. Maybe because it’s a cross between a friend and a boyfriend, and has a hazy definition because of that. After-all, it covers two houses! :) Frankly, it could go either way — at any time!

Spouse or Committed Partner (7th house, Libra/Juno): A spouse or partner is my right hand man. We are two peas in a pod, and come as a unit. Unless it’s a “me day” with friends, when I’m invited somewhere, it’s expected my spouse is invited too. They know pretty much everyone I know. We speak to each other daily, and hang out often, though we may not have as many fun outings together as we are busy attempting to achieve our ambitions. It’s part work, and part play — whereas a boyfriend or companion is mostly focused on pleasure and friendship — not work. They seek out information about my personal life, so they can help me solve problems that get in the way of our dreams and ambitions. Decisions are made together, as we’re aware that whatever the other does — affects BOTH of us. A spouse or committed partner is a friend, companion, and boyfriend — they fill all roles and we know we’ve made a commitment through sickness, and health — until death (including divorce) do us part. Being a spouse is a lot of work, but there’s lots of rewards too. A shared vision of ambition (even if the ambition is to do nothing!) is essential for survival.

Libra and Leo, Sextile — so get along quite easily. In other words, one can can lead to the other quite easily. So a boyfriend, can lead to a husband quite easily. However, a Me (Aries) does not make the leap to You (Libra) — You and I in a permanent relationship — very easily. Having said that, Me (Aries) can make a good leap to Boyfriend (5th H / us).

4 Ways to be a Good Husband

7 Ways to be a Great Husband

How to Be a Good Wife

Serious relationships start in the 1st house (a relationship with yourself), and end in the 7th house (a relationship with other). Then in between you have boyfriends and girlfriends (5th house), and casual friendships (11th house).

When a love interest wants more from you, they need to be willing to give more.  There’s a saying:

Dress for the job you want, not the one you have.


The Prison Planet: Uncommon Yet Plausible Thoughts Regarding The Purpose of Man on Earth

I’m not a religious person, by much of anyone’s standards.

I went to Baptist churches until I was around seven years old. My mom was a non-practicing Catholic from the East coast of Canada. And I’ve got Inuit (Eskimo) in me.

I consider myself spiritual.

I’ve participated in a coven, been a solitary witch, connected to paganism, investigated Scientology, practiced Buddhism, explored the Universal Unitarian church due to all its diversity, played around with various psychic and earth practices, converted to Islam in my early twenties (connected to marriage) and haven’t practiced it since the 90’s, and looked into Jewish mysticism.

But I found a lot of it to be lacking.

While I’m not a fair weather friend, and I’m very loyal (Venus Trine Saturn) — I’m not loyal to religion or a spiritual practice unless it continues to serve my highest good (Sag on 11th/12th, Jupiter in the 9th).

So if I’m to be anything religious, astrology is my religion. It still continues to serve my highest good.

However, I think most religions have something of value to share with us.

I’m telling you all this because what I’m about to say might sound religious, and I hope you’ll put what I say into the context of my experiences, and knowledge.

Also, if you’re a highly sensitive person who is currently ungrounded — you may want to skip what I’m about to say until you’ve got your feet firmly planted.

Uncommon Yet Plausible Thoughts Regarding The Purpose of Man on Earth

I think we’re all prisoners, and that human beings have sinned or transgressed. Earth is a huge jail.  Saturn is our warden. Saturn is the devil. The devil governs or rules Earth — not God. This is a God forsaken planet! Though the concept of God, rules ALL. God intervenes when the Devil / Saturn has went to far, and we’ve prayed for help. Sometimes, we still won’t get help. Our souls (Neptune, spirit) are encased in walking jail cells (note our body is made up of cells!).  We have a sentence to carry out, and there’s no “get out of jail for free” card. Though we may get to check out earlier, for good behavior or for incorrect incarceration. We’re here to redeem ourselves so we get off, and stay off this rock — unless we want to come back to help those who are struggling to get off.  Our bodies, are shackles (or walking prison cells)– keeping our spirit (Neptune) bound to the earth (Saturn). Natally I have Saturn (in the 4th) Opposition Neptune (in the 10th) so these thoughts are ones I’ve played with quite a bit. Some people want to fly, or escape — feeling chained in. Suicide is incredibly frowned upon, because we have a sentence to live out. If a person does this, they will hang in a holding cell (purgatory), until they’re processed and sent straight back to prison (Earth) with an even longer and harder sentence!  Think about a prisoner escaping, and being caught from a traditional jail. Not a good option, my friend. To that end, we keep coming back (re-incarnation) until we’ve elevated ourselves — nirvana. (ie non-attachment, surrendering, allowing, etc). Some can reach Nirvana on Earth, but from what I understand they quickly die thereafter. I’m a sinner too.  Why else am I on this planet?  Could I be an angel on Earth? Possibly. But no matter what, I’ve at one time sinned, and I continue to sin. In archery, the term SIN means: Missed the mark!  I’ve made a lot of mistakes, and experienced a lot of pain.  And with that, I learn. I grow. I am highly motivated to get off this rock, once my sentence has been served. When I get a jail pass, I attempt to elevate myself by doing good, helping others succeed and grow, and enjoy the spirit/matter creations of others and myself (music, artwork, nature, etc.)

So what about most of us wanting to LIVE, and not die?  If earth contains a bunch of heartaches, stress, disease, etc.. maybe we want to live because we realize we haven’t rehabilitated ourselves yet, and that we’ll have to come back if we haven’t cleared our debt. Once we do, heaven is on our side. But it also could be to keep us living, to finish out our sentence. We have a sentence to carry out, and we need to WANT to carry it out. We could also be theatre, for the Gods. Truly, it seems that the ones that die young — are the luckiest. “The good die young”. And when people say, “There in a better place. Inherently, they know that to be true!” Living on Earth, is no easy task. But sometimes, we’re able to have enough fun to forget about how hard it is. These rewards help us to keep working towards redeeming, and rehabilitating.

Also of note is the Uranus Return, that happens around 84. Uranus, ruling Aquarius (who is co-ruled by Saturn), is about freedom — freedom from Saturn’s restriction.  And as an Air planet — detaching itself from matter (the body, Earth, Saturn). A lot of people will die or get sick around this age or when Saturn/Uranus crosses an angle, or enters one of the houses of endings (4,8,12). Basically they will have served their sentence, and so their body dies to free their spirit. Uranus, Pluto, and Saturn are planets that separate our bodies from our spirit.

Further regarding the planets in the houses of endings: Be wary of Uranus, Pluto, or Saturn crossing the ascendant — representing the potential release of the body (or rather, spirit). Death can be seen through the water sign houses (4,8,12) — especially as they cross the 1st and 4th angles/angels. As well as when they return — they are conjuncting your natal Saturn, or Uranus. Moon conjunct Moon, in combination with other celestial events, can also indicate death. Being that the Moon (Cancer) is opposite Saturn (Capricorn) and so they are tied together. Maybe one day I’ll write a post about celestial events that indicate when the spirit might become released from matter. For example another indicator is transiting Pluto opposite the natal Sun.

There’s more, there’s always more…

I’m Capricorn rising (Saturn), and Saturn is my first rising planet, situated in the 4th and Opposing Neptune Scorpio (in the 10th).

Semi-related. I saw the Revealing The Early Renaissance, show at the AGO – and there was a lot of astrology and tarot in there!

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Cosmic Weather Horoscope: May 24th to June 6th, 2013 by Abella Arthur, Astrologer

(Covers Friday May 24th to June 6th)

“Cosmic Weather”

by Abella Arthur

“Abella Arthur has practiced astrology for over 20 years. She is available for private consultations and parties — putting the cosmos into a personal perspective for you and your loved ones.”

On the 21st, the Sun (self, ego, personality, and the center) entered the sign of Gemini (thought, duality, communication, factoids, variety, brilliance, and interests). Happy Birthday Gemini!

While the next door neighbor of Gemini — Taurus (the sign of security, stability, tenacity, sensuality, artistry, and nature), ruled by Venus (the planet of love, money, beauty, etc.) — is no longer basking in the Sun’s rays, it’s not quite ready to move on yet.

Mars is in the sign of Taurus (April 21 to May 31), and the fixed star Algol, is still in Taurus (currently at 26 degrees) for hundreds of years to come.

(To learn more about Algol, visit: http://blog.virgovault.com/2012/10/02/fixed-star-algol-25-taurus-sexual-emotional-psychological-drives-heterosexual-men-algol)

On the 24th, the planet of war, sex, sports, masculinity, assertiveness, and action — Mars, begins to socialize with, and explore what is known as the most evil star in the cosmos, Algol, for the next couple of weeks.

Algol connects to the myth of Perseus and the gorgon, Medusa, wherein it becomes Perseus’ task to slay the monster’s head. After accomplishing this task, he uses it to fight evil, and wrong-doing. Algol resides in the third eye (collective conscious) of Medusa’s head.

This period of cosmic weather may suggest an aggressive stance against things such as alcohol, brutality, sexual force, fighting, and competition. It may also be a time where the people will feel the desire to unusually assert their collective voice against any destructive and damaging actions taken; however, be sure you’re not the one attempting to do destroy or damage — to win at all costs. In fact, there may be an element of “damage control” that a large organization will play out.

Alongside Mars tied to Algol, the 24/25th of May has us experiencing the emotional and just impact of a Full Moon Lunar Eclipse in Sagittarius (the higher mind, long distance travel, law, and religion).

As a society, we are on the road to no longer being able to bear witness to the atrocities of helpless victims, and choose to put an end to abuse of all kinds — with aggressive completion of new educational programs, laws, wide-spread philosophies, and traveling ministry.

This upcoming period of time is one of activism, and sharing the truth of damaged goods.

Your Bi-Weekly Horoscope:

Aries: Sudden breakthroughs. You’re considering your options and choices. You’ll hold on to what you have, for sure. But you’re also making a decision on whether to grab on to something new. It’s completely up to you.

Taurus: You’ve worked really hard to achieve a state of self-sufficiency, but now it’s hard to let anyone in for fear of being beaten up, and badgered. Be good to yourself, and be good to others. Open up with caution.

Gemini: In your world, there are three sides to every story: Yours, theirs, and the “watcher”. The watcher is your mental subconscious, making judgment. Let it poke around and listen well to what it says.

Cancer: A new idea comes to mind regarding moving forward on a long held dream. You know it’s going to take some tough and serious work, and you are likely to be met with objection. Forge ahead anyway.

Leo: It’s time to get out, socialize, and celebrate all that life has to offer. Dust off some of your hobbies, and take them for a spin. An interesting Gemini may grab your attention. Re-ignite your engine. Do a happy dance.

Virgo: Balance your mind by emptying those excessive details swimming around your head.  Water will soothe and refresh your mind. Go for a swim, take a nice bath, or a trip to the spa. Dirty thoughts will wash away.

Libra: Your support is being tapped by more people than usual. It’s hard to say no, but if you plan on getting everything done – you’ll want to. If you keep saying yes, don’t look up or ahead — it will likely depress.

Scorpio: Your past is catching up to you. Things you didn’t let go of, are coming back to haunt. Try to let go this time around – your karmic debt will receive a cleansing, and you’ll be freer to regenerate and renew.

Sagittarius: You may sense a tug of war, and that the world isn’t quite right. But you know how to look at the bright side. Remember to remove yourself from the nattering of lower minds, and seek higher ground.

Capricorn: A reunion of sorts is coming up, and you’re thinking about sweet old memories. Family — whether biological, business, or extended — is very important to you at this time.  Let them all know how much!

Aquarius:  The universe wants you to experience another side of yourself. Take a cue from your astrological opposite, Leo. Smile, enjoy the warm weather, and get personal with your peers at every opportunity.

Pisces: Big hug to you! You’re going through some stressful times right now, your mother is on your mind, and it’s hard to sleep. It’s no wonder it’s difficult to make sense of what’s happening. Stop the thought, not the spot.

“Abella Arthur has practiced astrology for over 20 years. She is available for private consultations and parties — putting the cosmos into a personal perspective for you and your loved ones.”


After completing my horoscope column, I did a little search, and found a sports figure (Mars) is going on an emotional walk (Full Moon Lunar Eclipse in Sag) called The Orange Movement to fight sexual child abuse in the law (Moon Sag, Algol). Former NHL star Theo Fleury was sexually abused (Mars-Algol) by a hockey coach. He will finish the walk on May 23rd, one day before Mars Conjuncts Algol and the Full Moon in Sag eclipses — making a major transitional hit upon unacceptable abuse in our society, especially upon unsuspecting and helpless victims.

Note that Fleury started his walk on the 14th, just a day (as is the case for Mars-Algol) before the Sun Conjunct Algol! What great timing!!


Venus & Money: Where’s your Venus? Who do you make money from?

Wherever your Venus is, represents who pays you or who you make money from.

  1. Where’s your Venus?
  2. What house does Venus reside?

Venus primarily rules Taurus, and co-rules Libra (who is primarily ruled by Juno).

  • Venus is in my 8th house, and on my 9th and 4th.
  • I make money from my contractors (their skills), in my business.  I also make money from spiritual seekers, and learners! And eventually I’ll make money from publishers, of my writing. :D

The 8th house is about other people’s resources, amongst other things. It’s also the house of business.

Also note where your Neptune is (higher form of Venus).  Mine is in the 10th. I’ve received anonymous donations (don’t’ get too excited — small amounts!! haha), for example. The 10th is the general public.


In or on the 1st – You make money from yourself. Entrepreneurship, or self-employment where YOU do the job (being a contractor).

In or on the 2nd – You make money from money (investments, banking, real estate, etc). Also by people who have an artistic nature (collectors) and value (wealthy people).

In or on the 3rd – You make money from neighbors, siblings, co-workers. Also by people who do a lot of short distance traveling, and people who like short term learning (workshops, tutoring).

In or on the 4th – You make money from your parents — Mom and/or Dad. Ancestral skills, or financial help (especially connected to your living space). You make money from the people who live in your home (such as renters).

In or on the 5th – You make money from gambling, your children, your hobbies, close friends, dates, or risk taking.

In or on the 6th – You make money from your employer, or various employers. You make money from people concerned about their health (physically sick people), or daily life.

In or on the 7th – You make money from your partnerships, or committed romantic partner (ie, your spouse).

In or on the 8th – You make money from other people’s resources and skills — usually from business, taxes, or inheritance. People who use their skills to directly make you money in your business.

In or on the 9th – You make money from a church, spiritual seekers, pursuit of higher knowledge, students and teachers, your writing (publishers)…

In or on the 10th – You make money from the masses — the general public. This often comes in the form of royalties or passive income. Welfare, is one example. Being the head of a company, is another.

In or on the 11th – You make money from friends, associates, and networks such as BIA’s, networking functions, local business centers. Would get campaign or fundraising money. As well as your wishful thinking.  The Secret — power of positive thinking! Making money from the universal mind, or just the universe!

In or on the 12th – You make money from institutions such as prisons, psychiatric, or medical facilities. You make money from the mentally or spiritually wounded, and the hidden (anonymous or locked up and disenfranchised people). You make money from charities — as in, also receiving charity.

Please help this list be more specific by adding which house your VENUS resides, and who you make money from. :)

You may also be interested in this article.


Marriage Around the Zodiac: Part 1, Initiating & Developing Desire for Getting Married – The Houses

What the cosmos (Planets, Stars, God, Gods, Goddesses, etc) teach us about being ready for, getting, and being married — through astrology!

Part 1

Marriage starts in the house of self, the first house (Aries, Mars). This is the house where we learn to express ourselves, get our needs met, and figure out, “What do I want”? We also develop a style through our clothes, mannerisms, and how we sound that will attract our ideal partner. A good head on our shoulders, will take us far. And the physically fitter, active, and assertive you are — the more ease you’ll have in finding a partner.

Then in the 2nd house (Taurus, Venus) we build our resources (financial, and physical), as well as develop our self-esteem and values. This is the house where we learn to love and value ourselves, and what we own — a necessity for co-existing healthily with another (Libra, Venus). This is also the house of self-sex. Sex with ourselves.

This leads us to the third house — the house of communication and short distance traveling.

Often, if you’re interested in getting married — it’s a good idea to have frequent visits, with prospects, closer to home as long distance relationships (9th house) often fall through, or don’t go through a healthy dose of face-time (Gemini, Mercury). We also often a lot of talking or communicating as we learn about the other.

Meeting online (element of air) such as email, Twitter, Facebook, a personal ad site; at a coffee shop; taking a walk in our neighborhood; having blind-dates that our match maker siblings, co-workers, and neighbors set us up with; and getting to know people in your hood are all ways to increase visibility and communication with marriage prospects. You might even introduce your prospects to 3rd house people (who didn’t match make you) such as your siblings, neighbors, co-workers, etc. — to get the Yay or Nay.

In the 4th (Cancer, Moon),  you start spending time with a prospect in your home — where you can show a bit of your character and background, photos, memorabilia, artifacts, be in your natural surroundings, and relax. This might also be a time where you’ll introduce a prospect to your parents — overlapping the 5th.

As you spend more time in each other’s natural surroundings, you become closer (5th house) and might end up dating. This is where you take the risk of falling head over heels in love with someone.  You enjoy little getaways, recreational pursuits, hobbies together, and you take a gamble on your romance. But here, everything is happy and fun.  You feel a little silly, and kind of like a kid again — with butterflies in your stomach!

In the 6th, you get to learn about each other’s daily work and health habits. This is the house that will make or break your relationship.  This is the house of “no fun”.  It is the house of what has to get done — what’ you’ll bother or not bother to get done. You ask yourself: Do we have the same or a similar lifestyle? Can I live and sleep with this person? Is that quirk (Aquarius, exalted in Mercury), bad habit, or ritual (Vesta) going to annoy (Virgo) me down the road?

Between the 6th and 7th houses, a couple may negotiate living conditions. And it’s here where each person decides if how the other person lives is a better or worst way to go. You’ll either find co-operation or you won’t.

Even if you don’t have the same recreational pursuits — if you feel like your boyfriend or girlfriend can mirror or reflect (Libra, 7th house) your own habits — you’ll feel like you’ve found the one. You say to yourself: Our two, is actually a one — we’re two peas in a pod. We are in synch, and are a harmonious couple. Our vibrations are raised through our similarities. You both say:  Through marriage, we will become stronger and we will be a unified force — creating a committed and loving partnership (Libra, Venus) that will ease our personal struggle and further our independent ambitions (Aries, 1st house — opposite the 7th) of shared mutual goals.

Stay tuned for Part 2: Marriage Around the Zodiac: Getting and being Married – The Houses (8-12, then around the bend again… Part 3)



Astrology: The Divine Language of the Gods.

I think of astrology as a language.

Astrology is a direct and divine language of the Gods — how the cosmos speak to humans and vice versa.

I’m an translator (interpreter), and teacher of this symbolic language.

I’m more arts, than science focused.

While astrology is a language, the charts erected contain many volumes of books with astrological chapters, paragraphs, sentences, and words.

It can take years, or months to read a whole chart — minutes, and seconds to read part of it.

Natal astrology describes the native, and the potential opportunities and challenges they shall face, face, and have faced.

The natal and progressed chart is your operating and repair manual. Every machine enjoys maximum success with one.

The solar return (and other predictive charts) and transits, are your windows of opportunity. They also provide challenges to help you grow and explore the magic of your life, and living.

Synastry (and composite) charts describe the chemistry between two or more people, and the reason for the relationship, as well as the potential opportunities and challenges they shall face, face, and have faced.

Just like the natal and progressed charts — synastry and composite charts, are operating and repair manuals focused on your relationships. Along with a counseling astrologer, skilled in reading charts and therapeutic dialogue, you may enjoy a much faster and clearer repair of your relationship.

— Abella Arthur


Cosmic Weather Column & Horoscope – EastYorker Paper, by Abella Arthur

Cosmic Weather

by Abella Arthur, for EastYorker

Abella Arthur has practiced astrology for over 20 years. She is available for private consultations and parties — putting the cosmos into a personal perspective for you and your loved ones. She can be reached on her website.

Covers the period of April 5th to 19th

Spring fever arrives with the stage set for surprise romances, friendships, and extra money in your pocket.

We’re in the thick of an Aries stellium. Aries is the sign of assertiveness, war, winning, initiative, masculine activities, and intense bursts of physical expression. It is the first sign of the zodiac and marks the first day of spring (vernal equinox) which was on March 20th this year. A stellium means there are three or more planets in the same sign, and it creates a specialized concentration of energy as it relates to the themes of that sign.

Right now we have the Sun, Venus, Mars, and Uranus in Aries. And with Jupiter still in Gemini, and connecting to this lust for life Aries stellium — lots of opportunities for unexpected romance, looking your best, movement, and financial well-being are available to you.

Aries is the next best time to assert new year resolutions made back in January. Yes, you have a second chance to make a fresh start or put something totally new on your agenda. And if love, money, and beauty are some of your goals – this is a fabulous time to get a head-start.

Aries: You and your fire sign friend, Leo, are about to be struck by cupid, beauty, and new friendships. Enjoy the heat, and stoke the fire. The scales are tipping to your favor.
Taurus: Invest in your finances, and see them grow faster than usual. For those green thumbs, start your gardening or nature projects and plans.
Gemini: Your self-esteem and zest for life is about to soar. Take time out to feed your mind, and your mouth with what’s hot at the moment.
Cancer: Bring more passion into your home by energizing your desires through spring cleaning.  It will ground you.
Leo: You and your fire sign friend, Aries, are about to be struck by cupid, beauty, and new friendships.  Bask in the light of the fire, and move past love lost.
Virgo: Work on your communication, and analysis for all tasks done.  It’s time to think about your educational interests again, and possibly a change in job — making more money.
Libra: Don’t fight or oppose what’s going on. Let it expand your mind, and let love in. Actually, invite that sparkly someone out to a lively meeting place.
Scorpio: Get wrapped up into all that intensity. You’re a little cautious about a younger or less experienced person.  Test the water, and don’t give up until you do. If they pass, show your warm side.
Sagittarius: You’ll get noticed if you get moving. Show off all your luscious love for living and learning large. What did you know before, and what do you know now?
Capricorn: Use all that friction as motivation to do it your own way. Break out of the mold, and entertain others through the music of your soul.
Aquarius: You’re in seventh heaven. All is well in your world, and you have more joys than you can handle. Build your love.
Pisces: Your mind keeps floating with fast thoughts, but not to worry — you’re moving forward and something will gel soon. Life on solid land can be had.

Jupiter square Chiron, on 27 March (14 Mar. – 5 Apr.)
Pluto sextile Chiron, on 4 April (15 Mar. – 23 Apr.)
Venus conjunction Mars, on 7 April (4 Apr. – 9 Apr.)

Abella Arthur has practiced astrology for over 20 years. She is available for private consultations and parties — putting the cosmos into a personal perspective for you and your loved ones. She can be reached on her website.


Toronto, Ontario Tarot Weather Scopes for March 1 to 31, 2013 — TarotSeek

Toronto, Ontario Tarot Weather Scopes for March 1 to 31, 2013 — TarotSeek

I used my TarotSeek method for this.  I didn’t know which week I would be answering. The same question, other than week difference was asked: What will the weather be like in Week ___. And what will be on the minds of the people?

March 1 to 9

Page of Wands.  The physical weather will have drier conditions.  Dreams of new jobs and opportunities coming your way, will be on the mind. Plans for spring and summer vacations also on the horizon. Note: the current 14 day trend shows dry weather from March 1 to 8th. But as we know, the weather can change at any time.

March 10 to 16

Queen of Wands. The weather continues to be drier. Spring flowers are ready to begin their journey towards the big bloom. Feeling steady and ready for new ventures provides us opportunity to stretch our wings but preparation to return to a possible past, if need be, is also highlighted.  Note: Mercury goes direct on the 18th, so going back to the past is definately a possibility. The 14 day trend shows warmer weather but with rain and some flurries. But as we know, the weather can change at any time.

March 17 to 23

Judgement. We’ll have colder weather but sunny skies brighten up our views. Spending time with family and friends is on the agenda. Music is important to soothe our soul, and there might be a musical delight (such as a new album, or concert) that awaits. Note: David Bowie, one of my favorite artists, will have launched his new album on March 12th in the United States. I probably won’t get it until this week. Also when is March break? Anyone know?

March 24 to 31

The Star. There is some snowfall.  This winter has quite the hold on us this year.  However water, and/or rain will clear the snow and dirt off the streets once again. Spring cleaning and opening yourself up to warmer weather is on the horizon.

As a Toronto tarot reader, I’m available to teach and give TarotSeek readings.


Mercury Rx, Retrograde in Pisces 2013

Until March 17th, Mercury (the planet of communication, trade, travel, education, siblings, and the nervous system) will be retrograde. This means that the planet appears to travel backwards in the sky.

When you think about how this cosmic event affects you, add “re” to every action you consider taking: reflect, rejuvenate, reignite, renew, recycle, repeat, redo, resolve, research, review, etc.

With the Rx (℞), you may also want to reconsider any prescriptions for physical, spiritual, financial, or mental health.

You’ll also hop on the mental time machine — taking a trip back to get things finished up or sorted out, that were left behind.

Mechanical and electrical things can break down, can have power fluctuations, work slowly, or be delayed — travel, trade, and communication devices included. Mail, credit and debit cards, and payments can also be affected.

Anything not previously fixed or resolved before, or was on its way out, will likely be on its last legs during the retrograde.

Getting things fixed, backing up data, doing your taxes, and resolving outstanding problems that Mercury governs is a positive, successful, and productive approach to this celestial happening.

If you’re signing contracts, buying machines or electronics — do your research, and read the fine print three times! Better yet, have someone else go triple check it for you. Give yourself extra time to get things done, and get to places.

Restarting of old relationships and connections may occur during a retrograde; however, avoid starting a new relationship or connection. If you break up during a retrograde, there’s a good chance you’ll get back together again (maybe during the next retrograde), or sort things out more clearly once it’s over.

If you have siblings, they may be hard to reach or misunderstandings could abound. However, it’s also a time where you’re likely to rehash old stories, or issues and might get somewhere with it this time around.

With Mercury Rx in Pisces, we have the added element of water mixed with the air of Mercury and this makes mist or rain. Don’t be surprised if tears are shed — happy or sad, in memory of the past.

Pisces is a soft, dreamy, sensitive, and sometimes clouded sign. If you’re into the spiritual arts, or yoga — it’s a good time to get meditating and moving your body and mind, in gentle ways. This is also a great time to think about water, spirituality, drugs taken, illusions you’ve created for yourself, your plans for this spring, sleeping, and dreaming.

If you have planets in the mutable signs (Virgo, Gemini, Pisces, Sagittarius) around 5° to 19°, you’ll be especially affected by this spectacle in the areas that are governed by those signs, planets, and houses and will ride it out until April 6th. Oh joy! :D

Seriously, if you need extra time to heal or get your taxes, filing, or repairs done — this is actually good news!

My Mercury Rx Pisces 2013 Stories

I’ve got Mercury Virgo 8° and Pisces NN 2°, and intercepted in the 2nd house.

  • Stomach ailment came back — this time with a vengeance.
  • Power outage zapped out my old speakers that were on their last legs anyway.
  • Only one out of three elevators working since the 25th.
  • Missed the bus.
  • Trade is slower.
  • Payment a regular client mailed, didn’t arrive on time. Another payment didn’t come (after Mercury turned direct but the event was booked during the Rx) and the event ended up getting cancelled — deposits are essential in my line of work! :)
  • Payments made in odd ways by clients, disrupting our payment flow.  After Mercury turned direct, payments started flowing in again!
  • Rehashing same issues with sibling. This time we might be getting somewhere.
  • Doing my taxes, sorting out paperwork. Received a call on March 28th (after Mercury turned direct from the government about putting a “move-on” in getting my filing done. I’ve got that April 6th extension so hope to have it done by then! )
  • I’ve submitted an article for an astrology column in a local newspaper
  • Communication breakdown with a Pisces Sun-Mercury native. Made up with said person on March 28th (after Mercury turned direct).
  • Friend’s car break, on back wheel died. He had delayed fixing it for months.
  • March 29th, finally able to travel, as travel plans were delayed before Mercury turned direct.
  • Sink part not working well, was not communicated.  This led to the part becoming totally broken. It’s now been fixed!
  • Credit card company thought a payment I made was suspicious so put a hold on account.  That payment didn’t go through but other payments were attempted, so cancelled card and a new one on its way. Turns out, it was the payment I was trying to make.  The organization’s payment processor was coming through as suspicious.
  • I will be re-interviewing someone whom I had intended an in-person interview on Sunday (just one day after Mercury went Rx). I couldn’t interview them in person because I got sick (see above stomach ailment). I did, however, interview them by pone and we will be doing the live re-interview during the Mercury Rx.  So that’s actually good that happened!
  • March 30th: Have been unable to commit or announce official changes such hiring a new contractor, and announcing a new moderator for a group I run. Right now, I can’t find the words.  I’m certain I will as I get closer to April 6th — when entirely out of the shadow period.

How Mercury Works in Your Natal Chart

Hey, what better time to think about how Mercury (and my Mercury) works in a natal chart than during Mercury Rx!

My Sun and Mercury have home signs (Leo and Virgo), so I’m seen as a strong thinker / communicator. It’s my natural talent.And  Aries is on the 3rd so I process information quickly, if I can get it quickly enough. I was considered a scatterbrain (my grade 6 teacher called me that) because I could think faster than I could talk. Yup, I’m a fast speaker and typist.

With a Virgo Mercury (and Aries on the third), I’m a fact hunter. I love the pure truth and knowledge. Combine Aries on the 3rd with Virgo Mercury, and you get an “interrogator” which is similar to (but not exactly like) having Mercury Aries, or Mercury-Mars. Now, from my perspective I’m just trying to get factual information quickly. And if I don’t integrate the Libra side of Aries into the picture, I can appear as pushy or aggressive — hence the “Interrogator” but that’s only if someone has a tendency to look on the negative side of life. My combination, in its neutrality, just says: Wanting to process facts quickly or Fast Facts. And I’ll cut people off from embellishments, and fluffy stuff to get it.

Inside my third house, I only have Chiron. Here are some ways this plays out:

* I’m a fearless communicator for those who can not speak their truth.
* I was wounded about my speech. My grade six teacher calling me scatterbrain.
* I took speech therapy for a lisp (I have a gap tooth) and my father didn’t want me to get surgery to correct it.
* I can wound people with my speech. I’ve been called intellectually dominating, have the ability to cut someone up, and be a hardcore debater. However, I have a high mind (Jupiter & Uranus in Libra) so it’s unlikely I would do that for kicks. I really think I could have been a lawyer.

I have no other celestial objects in Aries, other than Chiron.

Now, I was checking out my friend who has a lot of Aries and Virgo in his chart (including Mercury Aries, and Mars Virgo — he’s really a Mercury-Mars thinker / communicator too) but he doesn’t seem to have any sympathy for my communication challenges. Then again, he’s got Taurus on the 3rd. He likes to take time to process his information (slower talker, thinker)– this, of course, is in direct conflict with his Mercury Aries — who would usually want to process information quickly.

He also has the ability to tear me a new one, but it’s not usually logical or pin pointed enough for me (sorry hun!) so it doesn’t get him far. This makes his Aries (in to win) angry. But thankfully, since he has Taurus on the 3rd it’s similar to Venus-Mercury or Mercury Taurus so he caves and smooths it all over — eventually. ;-)

Going back to my natals, I have Mars in the 7th. My Mercury is colored by Mars so knowing what Mars is doing is very important. It means that I generally have what my partners, associates, and clients may consider “interrogation sessions” — well, my clients would consider it “therapy” ;P. I would rarely (if ever) behave in this way with strangers, people who are not in my inner circle, or people whom I am not trying to help.

If I’m in to win, it’s to win at gaining my own sense of clarity and understanding about a topic.  I love being clear. I love clear thoughts. I love knowing things clearly. I have great difficulty being in the fog, and unknown (Pisces).

I love other people sharing clear thoughts.  I am in respect, and awe at the clarity of other thoughts — when they rarely shine through (excuse my disdain at lack of clarity).  I’m like, “Go you. Sure, I can get behind that”.

I don’t want to sit and process my own thoughts, if your clear thoughts are right in front of me. I’m in for the solution. But I may piggy back off your thoughts, to arrive at new thoughts.  It’s all about learning more, moving forward, and getting to the absolute bottom of things.


What sign is your Mercury in? What sign is on your third house cusp? What rules that sign, and what house does that planet reside in?

(Side-note: It’s also interesting to note that Mercury Rx Pisces is currently conjunct Mars! Astrology, got to love it.)


What is Love? Love is Venus, Juno, Taurus, Libra…

The other day, my talk therapist asked me:  What is love? Frankly, it made me pause. Then I turned to astrology — what I often do when I want to decode life.

Love is Venus, Juno, Taurus, and Libra.

No matter the type of love: romantic, platonic, love for one’s child, or job — the following traits are the foundations or necessary ingredients for love:

Love and loving, and being loved is sweet; hard; affectionate; fair; poetic; growth oriented; committed; wanting to be around the other; painful; causes security, stability, and balance; fruitful; tenacious; interdependent; what we value; what we want to own; beautiful; peaceful; relaxed; open; thoughtful; steady; reliable; loyal; comfortable; natural, resourceful; supportive; selfless; giving; sharing; and a projection.

Note: The above list is NOT exhaustive… :)

We often demonstrate our love to loved ones by making things such as poetry or cards (beautiful, poetic, giving, resourceful, natural, sweet, affectionate, thoughtful, etc.), giving gifts of chocolates such as during Valentine’s day (sweet, affectionate, giving), marrying / partnering with / giving birth (growth oriented, committed, painful, fruitful, loyal, stability, etc), or simply providing a powerful hug (sweet, peaceful, relaxed, open, comfortable, natural, supportive).

One of our goals in love is often to have and offer security, and stability — to provide and receive a home for the mental and material, connecting those two parts to the heart.

Our love for another is a reflection of our love for ourselves, which is why the old saying goes: You can’t love someone else, until you love yourself.

We offer tough love (Juno) when our loved one’s have gone astray. Tough love is not only painful for the receiver, but also the giver.

Love is more often then not reciprocal, though it is given of one’s own free will, and can include much sacrifice and selfless service.

When you truly love, you love for free. You will love without receiving anything in return — perhaps not indefinitely, but definately initially.

Having said that, love is about being fair.  If love is not reciprocated (Libra, Juno), physical (Taurus, Venus) demonstrations of it will eventually dry up.

What does love mean to you?

Do you have love in your life?

Who do you love?

Do you love yourself?

Are you a lover?

Here are non-astrological viewpoints on what love is — neat how there are many similarities:

Wikipedia | Dictionary.com | Urban Dictionary

Love (Taurus) is the opposite of lust (Scorpio, Eros).

Scorpio, ruled by Pluto, connected to Taurus (Venus) is another form of love. And another blog post, one that would also include the myth of Psyche and Eros. :D

Also Pisces, and Neptune (higher octave of Venus) also have a connection to what is love…


A blog by Astrologer Raphael Simons: The Year of Water Snake in Chinese Astrology 2013



Click on one of the pictures to find out a mini 2013 Chinese horoscope for your Chinese sign.  I’m a Dog. :-) What are you?

Like western sun sign astrology, Raphael has done much the same with his horoscope; however, he is available for full size Chinese astrology consultations that use the full date, location, and time of birth — just like western astrology.



Mercury Pisces Retrograde 2013 / Rx: February to April Dates & Insights

Mercury is in Pisces 8° right now.
My Mercury is in Virgo at 8° (it’s in exact partile today). I am/will be experiencing a Mercury Rx Opposite Mercury transit.
And have been feeling / experiencing the effects for about a week now.

The shadow period is from the 9th to 22nd. We’re already in it! Double AND Triple check EVERYTHING.

The Retrograde (Rx) is happening between Feb 23 (19°) to March 17 (5°). And we are hardest hit, March 1 to 10th!

Mercury rules communication (spoken, phone, email, snail mail, written, etc), trade, sales, contracts, siblings, and travel (over short distances).

It’s a time when things traditionally slow down — including sales so pull out all your advertising mojo to make the sale.

This is also a great time to think about your dreams, meditate, do art, and commune with nature and animals.

When the planet Mercury appears to travel backwards, any word with re: in front of it is what we’re likely to experience — reward, renew, refresh, revisit, redo, renegotiate, redress, etc… In some cases, a retrograde is very welcome, and necessary. Similar to when rain and snow helps cleanse the land, and grow food — reigniting life — a retrograde can also cause havoc.

We are also, transit wise, experiencing Mercury Conjunct Chiron (the wounded healer, wounding healer, and where we receive wounds from others). It’s a good time to mind your words and thoughts, and keep them healing and helpful — for and to yourself and others.

I’m taking note too, and although I find myself wanting to give people a piece of my mind — I’m putting a lid on it. Oh, time to meditate.

The shadow phase, on the tail end — starts March 18th, and ends April 6th.


The following music video, Retrograde, was released a couple of days ago — just on the cusp of the Mercury Rx shadow!


Life Skills (Words of Wisdom): The Life Cycle – Happiness and Accomplishments

(originally published June 20, 2005)

The Life Cycle:

  • Introduction
  • Growth
  • Maturity
  • Decline

I love The Life Cycle — often used in business regarding products — because it is a universal principle that applies to so many life issues.

I’m going to illustrate how The Life Cycle affects our happiness and accomplishments in life:

Note: A “crisis” section underneath each phase is written to state the “challenging” aspects of the phase moving forward.

The INTRODUCTION phase is about the newness of the thing. In relationships, that can be first meetings and in work, the first weeks. It’s about discovery and possibilities.
Crisis If one is always looking for the new, then nothing can grow and that deep intimate knowledge can never happen. A lot of superficiality can occur.

The GROWTH phase  is about making things “happen”. In relationships, this can mean moving towards getting a place together, vacationing, and blossoming the relationship with “truths” and healing each other’s “pasts”. In work, this can mean being in charge of a project that has a great effect on the work place.
Crisis If people get stuck in the growth stage it will be difficult to make something “worthwhile” happen!

The MATURITY phase is about standardizing and stabilizing. In relationships, this can mean getting married, having babies, getting a house, etc. etc… In work, this can mean setting standards, creating documentations, policies and procedures.
Crisis If you don’t allow innovation and the intro, growth cycle to re-occur — the road leads to decline and that means having to scramble to re-new the situation. Good planning allows for change.

The DECLINE phase is about staleness. The relationship might undergo a divorce, separation, or an affair. In work situations, a lay-off, wanting to quit, or huge dissatisfaction might occur.
Crisis If this stage comes to the surface, it’s hard to dig oneself out of the situation. A lot of people run and cut their losses but it doesn’t have to be that way.

We all have a “place” or two that we love to hover over. For me it’s the “Maturity and then back to Growth stage”. In my case, when it comes to work, this means that I love to put together plans, document processes and procedures, and help stabilize; however, I DO NOT want to be stuck in what I created or be forced by upper management or clients to succumb to my own designs. I want the option of re-visiting, updating, and innovating. Certifications, plans, processes, and programs are just “guides” or “tools” for a smoother ride but it doesn’t make or break anything.

But if I don’t have the option of growth, I usually quickly have a DECLINE crisis and might choose to terminate the relationship.

Some may enjoy the DECLINE stage.  For example, people who buy foreclosed homes, or feel want to retire.

Why is any of this important?

Because once you understand which area of the cycle you like to be in, you can either a) advise the people you live and work with or b) do things that allow you to stay in the cycle that’s most comfortable and that can be done in a healthy way.

Finally Revolve the Cycle. This can be achieved by:

  • understanding which state you are likely to hover over;
  • communicating that to the people that need to know (including yourself);
  • doing something that allows you to stay in that state for as long as possible while cycling out to maintain balance.