What the cosmos (Planets, Stars, God, Gods, Goddesses, etc) teach us about being ready for, getting, and being married — through astrology!
Part 2: Marriage Around the Zodiac: Getting and being Married – Houses 8-12
See Marriage Around the Zodiac: Part 1, Initiating & Developing Desire for Getting Married – Houses 1-7
In the 8th (Scorpio, Pluto) house — “till death do us part”… where a bond and undying love exists….
This is where a marriage or partnership transforms or destroys your psyche, finances, physical, and psychological health. This is the house where we learn dive deeply into all matters that develop or remove us.
Your marriage is consummated (ah, so maybe sex happens BEFORE the honeymoon?!), and explore sex with another person within the intimate bond that gets even deeper. Here, you create your wills, and change insurance policies with your new benefactor. Bank accounts may be joined, or a decision made on how resources are spent. Secrets are shared, and a transformation of psyche with our loved one — desired.
The 8th house is also the place where issues around who controls what, is determined. But before we get into the thick of all that, we tally up all the money received from our wedding from both sides of the fence.
Then in the 9th (Sagittarius, Jupiter) house, the house of long distance travel, spirituality, philosophy, religion, justice, foreign things, etc — we take that “wedding money” that are friends from far and wide gave to us as presents, and we go off on a honeymoon!
Here we learn more about our partner’s deeper thoughts, and our spiritual life together.
In the 10th (Capricorn, Saturn), we come back from our honeymoon, and introduce ourselves to the world-at-large. We are now accepted as a unit to be taken seriously. We did IT. And it’s an exciting time! Our Mother or Father (whoever is represented by our 10th house) may feel a sense of detachment, or loss at this time — as the parental recognition understands that we are about to embark on creating our own family separate from our biological one. Here, we, as a couple, begin to create our “shared identity” and explore and share our roles for society to know of.
In the 11th (Aquarius, Uranus), we begin building mutual friendships, make new contacts with service providers, and associations that support our new relationship status. We think of our hopes and dreams, and we seek out those who will support us and them. With all this couples work, we might also start to remind ourselves of our past independent life, dreams, and causes we had before marriage. Are they shared with our partner? Have they changed? Do they still exist? If not, do I want them to? The honeymoon period begins its end in the 11th!
In the 12th (Pisces, Neptune), we may hide our disappointments and sorrow for what what had hoped would work out, but didn’t. We feel lost. Marriage may feel confining — like we can’t breathe. Have we lost our identity? Who are we separately, and as a couple? We take some time out. We may not connect as much with our mate. We may hide our feelings, and thoughts of disillusionment and despair. We may feel shame or guilt for not having the same feelings that we had previously, or for potentially hurting our mate. We may consider divorce, but have no readiness for it. Should I stay, or should I go? We may bury ourselves in escapes, so we don’t have to deal with these serious questions, just yet.
Stay tuned for Part 3: Around the bend again
Starting with the first house, where we FIND OURSELVES AGAIN! And hopefully renew our commitments, and vows. Until next time…