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Part 2: Marriage Around the Zodiac: Part 2: Marriage Around the Zodiac: Being Married — Married Life – Houses 8-12

What the cosmos (Planets, Stars, God, Gods, Goddesses, etc) teach us about being ready for, getting, and being married — through astrology!

Part 2: Marriage Around the Zodiac: Getting and being Married – Houses 8-12
See Marriage Around the Zodiac: Part 1, Initiating & Developing Desire for Getting Married – Houses 1-7

In the 8th (Scorpio, Pluto) house — “till death do us part”… where a bond and undying love exists….

This is where a marriage or partnership transforms or destroys your psyche, finances, physical, and psychological health. This is the house where we learn dive deeply into all matters that develop or remove us.

Your marriage is consummated (ah, so maybe sex happens BEFORE the honeymoon?!), and explore sex with another person within the intimate bond that gets even deeper. Here, you create your wills, and change insurance policies with your new benefactor.  Bank accounts may be joined, or a decision made on how resources are spent. Secrets are shared, and a transformation of psyche with our loved one — desired.

The 8th house is also the place where issues around who controls what, is determined.  But before we get into the thick of all that, we tally up all the money received from our wedding from both sides of the fence.

Then in the 9th (Sagittarius, Jupiter) house, the house of long distance travel, spirituality, philosophy, religion, justice, foreign things, etc — we take that “wedding money” that are friends from far and wide gave to us as presents, and we go off on a honeymoon!

Here we learn more about our partner’s deeper thoughts, and our spiritual life together.

In the 10th (Capricorn, Saturn), we come back from our honeymoon, and introduce ourselves to the world-at-large.  We are now accepted as a unit to be taken seriously.  We did IT. And it’s an exciting time! Our Mother or Father (whoever is represented by our 10th house) may feel a sense of detachment, or loss at this time — as the parental recognition understands that we are about to embark on creating our own family separate from our biological one. Here, we, as a couple, begin to create our “shared identity” and explore and share our roles for society to know of.

In the 11th (Aquarius, Uranus), we begin building mutual friendships, make new contacts with service providers, and associations that support our new relationship status. We think of our hopes and dreams, and we seek out those who will support us and them. With all this couples work, we might also start to remind ourselves of our past independent life, dreams, and causes we had before marriage. Are they shared with our partner? Have they changed? Do they still exist? If not, do I want them to? The honeymoon period begins its end in the 11th!

In the 12th (Pisces, Neptune), we may hide our disappointments and sorrow for what what had hoped would work out, but didn’t. We feel lost. Marriage may feel confining — like we can’t breathe. Have we lost our identity? Who are we separately, and as a couple? We take some time out. We may not connect as much with our mate. We may hide our feelings, and thoughts of disillusionment and despair. We may feel shame or guilt for not having the same feelings that we had previously, or for potentially hurting our mate. We may consider divorce, but have no readiness for it. Should I stay, or should I go? We may bury ourselves in escapes, so we don’t have to deal with these serious questions, just yet.

Stay tuned for Part 3: Around the bend again

Starting with the first house, where we FIND OURSELVES AGAIN! And hopefully renew our commitments, and vows. Until next time…


Marriage Around the Zodiac: Part 1, Initiating & Developing Desire for Getting Married – The Houses

What the cosmos (Planets, Stars, God, Gods, Goddesses, etc) teach us about being ready for, getting, and being married — through astrology!

Part 1

Marriage starts in the house of self, the first house (Aries, Mars). This is the house where we learn to express ourselves, get our needs met, and figure out, “What do I want”? We also develop a style through our clothes, mannerisms, and how we sound that will attract our ideal partner. A good head on our shoulders, will take us far. And the physically fitter, active, and assertive you are — the more ease you’ll have in finding a partner.

Then in the 2nd house (Taurus, Venus) we build our resources (financial, and physical), as well as develop our self-esteem and values. This is the house where we learn to love and value ourselves, and what we own — a necessity for co-existing healthily with another (Libra, Venus). This is also the house of self-sex. Sex with ourselves.

This leads us to the third house — the house of communication and short distance traveling.

Often, if you’re interested in getting married — it’s a good idea to have frequent visits, with prospects, closer to home as long distance relationships (9th house) often fall through, or don’t go through a healthy dose of face-time (Gemini, Mercury). We also often a lot of talking or communicating as we learn about the other.

Meeting online (element of air) such as email, Twitter, Facebook, a personal ad site; at a coffee shop; taking a walk in our neighborhood; having blind-dates that our match maker siblings, co-workers, and neighbors set us up with; and getting to know people in your hood are all ways to increase visibility and communication with marriage prospects. You might even introduce your prospects to 3rd house people (who didn’t match make you) such as your siblings, neighbors, co-workers, etc. — to get the Yay or Nay.

In the 4th (Cancer, Moon),  you start spending time with a prospect in your home — where you can show a bit of your character and background, photos, memorabilia, artifacts, be in your natural surroundings, and relax. This might also be a time where you’ll introduce a prospect to your parents — overlapping the 5th.

As you spend more time in each other’s natural surroundings, you become closer (5th house) and might end up dating. This is where you take the risk of falling head over heels in love with someone.  You enjoy little getaways, recreational pursuits, hobbies together, and you take a gamble on your romance. But here, everything is happy and fun.  You feel a little silly, and kind of like a kid again — with butterflies in your stomach!

In the 6th, you get to learn about each other’s daily work and health habits. This is the house that will make or break your relationship.  This is the house of “no fun”.  It is the house of what has to get done — what’ you’ll bother or not bother to get done. You ask yourself: Do we have the same or a similar lifestyle? Can I live and sleep with this person? Is that quirk (Aquarius, exalted in Mercury), bad habit, or ritual (Vesta) going to annoy (Virgo) me down the road?

Between the 6th and 7th houses, a couple may negotiate living conditions. And it’s here where each person decides if how the other person lives is a better or worst way to go. You’ll either find co-operation or you won’t.

Even if you don’t have the same recreational pursuits — if you feel like your boyfriend or girlfriend can mirror or reflect (Libra, 7th house) your own habits — you’ll feel like you’ve found the one. You say to yourself: Our two, is actually a one — we’re two peas in a pod. We are in synch, and are a harmonious couple. Our vibrations are raised through our similarities. You both say:  Through marriage, we will become stronger and we will be a unified force — creating a committed and loving partnership (Libra, Venus) that will ease our personal struggle and further our independent ambitions (Aries, 1st house — opposite the 7th) of shared mutual goals.

Stay tuned for Part 2: Marriage Around the Zodiac: Getting and being Married – The Houses (8-12, then around the bend again… Part 3)