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The Frustations of an Astrologer: Knowing The Future May Not Matter Much For Them

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As an astrologer, tarot reader, and numerologist, I have access to insights into the future.

And while these future insights can do wonders in my personal life, it won’t do much if friends and loved ones don’t have the same kind of insight, belief, interest, or take as much seriousness as to what will happen, as I do.

If you’re an occultist, do you find this to be the case for you too?  If not, how do you overcome it?

Because of this, a challenging or difficult future event is likely to remain that way since I can only control myself and what I do. So it doesn’t matter that I know about what will happen between myself and another because the other person (in addition to myself) would need to take action to create a better outcome.

You may be saying: Well, at least you can pull yourself out of the future event when you know early!

And I have this to say about that:
I don’t know ALL future events that will happen to me. I go along with life, and when things aren’t going well (in the now) I go check out my transits and progressions and see what’s up so it may be too late. And I might check out when BIG transits are happening or look at my solar returns a couple of years ahead but I don’t really dig deep until I’m in the thick of something and know what I’m looking for (there’s just so much to look at!!).

Even when I am finally clued in, other future events are on the horizon. And there may not be enough time to extricate myself from a situation AND there’s no 100% guarantee that a specific incident could happen in the way I’m imagining it (many ways to read something) and I could burn a connection with someone for no good reason or keep one, when I should have let it go.

And the universe may want me to experience the situation anyway and come up with something else if I try to evade it so…

In the end, it sucks to know things that others don’t or don’t want to know because the work to change an outcome is too challenging for them and they’d rather let life lead them instead of leading their life. Bah!

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Rants & Raves

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<rave>I’ve been ranting awhile about a particular business topic (nothing recent on my blogs) and my lovely-not-so-lovely squares FINALLY figured out what I need to do to get over the nonsense.

There’s a quirk customers have in that they’re always trying to find loopholes and get away with sheat no matter the consequence.  I don’t find this to be decent, helpful to anyone, or showing integrity in personal and intimate relationships, even business ones.  I’m not selling burgers or a pair of jeans.

But that’s okay.  I figured out how to counter the obstacle.  Oh yes, my Scorpio MC found a STRATEGY that will address their needs while addressing mine. And this is my motto:  Get the needs of others met, while you get your needs met too.

I had to go all Saturn because I find no resolution can be completely Uranian when working with everyday folk.  They have to have something to hold on to, a precedent where their sheep and flock have decided unanimously that THAT thing is the right thing and anything new must be tested, weighed, and accepted by the masses before they’ll accept it.

I can’t go into what it is that I’ve found a solution for but it’s one that the masses can’t readily turn down and one I can readily get behind with a Scorpionic smile. ;P  I will say it has nothing to do with personal reading consultations. And I’ll say the reason why I have so much trouble with my Sun & Mars is that I don’t want to go down the road of Scorpio but fact is, I’m in business and Scorpio fits the bill in dealing with the games people think they need to play (social custom in business) with me but don’t really have to.  So it’s harder to walk down a path of personal integrity when others are not or think you’re not.

In other words, it’s definitely hard to make money with integrity but somehow I get creative and figure it out after a LOT of verbal ranting.  LOL

I think this is why I LOVE helping clients who rant about their life. Because after they’re done, they’re raving about my insights, solutions, and strategies to what was once considered a problem.

Of course, I could be wrong.  My strategy might fail so I won’t be too cock-sure about it.  But what I will allow myself to be, is pleased that my Sun-Mars squaring MC are good for something! ;-)

..and now go back to the drawing board to reignite my dreams — a lot of work to do but nonetheless, I’m pleased!! Woohoo </rave>

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Sun-Mars in Leo, 7th House Trouble

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Due to my Sun Leo being in the 7th, I find that I strive for and encourage equality but I like ‘fans’ or to be a ‘leader’ in my partnerships, teaching, or consulting.

But what I often find, due to my Mars being in there too — I suppose — is that I get people (clients and students) wanting to compete with me and show me that they can be just as good or better than me while disregarding what I taught and shared with them.

By the way, I am very impressed with my students and clients and if nothing else I feel that they ARE better than me.  And that, to me, is a sign of good consulting and teaching BUT that’s not what I’m trying to get across.  I’m not talking about the person, student, employee, or client showing me how they’ve improved or how they are getting better.  It’s that they are clearly competitive, spurred on, I imagine by my Mars (and the Sun, for being so darn inspirational in the first place) in the 7th and they have a difficult time remembering or accepting that it was me who helped them improve! *ugh*

Mars (Aries) wants to go it on their own so I invite and encourage people who are like that and I’m like that too.  The only difference with me is that I actually ‘do’ learn it on my own, and when I don’t, I cite sources and remember who helped me along the way. The people I invite into my life are learning from me but, as I’ve said before — they often have a hard time sharing with others (and more importantly, with themselves) that they got any education from me.

This does not apply with EVERYONE, just enough people and enough times to get me ranting. ;P

And it doesn’t just happen in astrology and tarot, it happens in EVERYTHING and that means it’s now happening in regards to my artwork. LOL I just can’t seem to get away from it unless I stop sharing what I’m doing or thinking. Grrrr … I have too much passion and I have a bad habit of sharing it. LOL

On a business / teaching level, it’s not good to incite competitive behavior as it’s hard to move forward or find success in my field, if that’s happening.
I normally teach one-on-one or to nameless, faceless people (ie, blog format) but maybe I need to teach a group so that they can be each other’s witness which will likely lead to reinforcing that they learned something ‘unique’ or ‘unusual’ from me. LOL… This stuff is funny, when looked at from another angle. Truth is stranger than fiction, that’s for sure.

Ahhh, how to stop that one?! Anyone have some advice other than hiding my knowledge until fully published and marketed? :)

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My New Teaching Tagline.

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Someone just told me my tagline as an occult teacher should be: “So good, you’ll think you learned it on your own.” LOL That’s bold but I may use it anyway.

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Music and Street Life

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Music makes life much more bearable.

People are like maniacs on the street.  So much negative and nervous energy I pick up. Ugh.

Headset and sunglasses do a good job at tuning out the unpalatable stimulus.

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The 8th House, Virgo Stellium & Knowing the Truth Before You Do!

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I was chatting with a friend on Facebook and we got to talking about how I want to believe what people say to me but I have had to stop believing in the lies they tell themselves to ensure safety, security, well-being, and good flow.

“I crack up because most the time I think, “Is this person that stupid to think I don’t see through their mud pile of dung?” It’s a really funny thing we experience with [Virgo] 8H stellium…. We [know] things before the actual individual knows.” ~ DarbyDarcy

I’ve said a number of times to intimates:  Do you think I’m THAT stupid? That offends me.

I have to remind them I’m not a norm buying or pretending to buy their crap. Few people don’t know the past, present, future like I do, like an 8th house Virgo stellium does.

What’s cool is that DarbyDarcy isn’t even a professional psychic, like I am. She’s just an 8th house Virgo stellium, like I am. That makes what she says go even further than it already does…

It’s actually pretty annoying to be right.  We often want to be wrong.

Respect is a big thing for me, so for the longest time I treated people the way I would want to be treated. Bad move. When I speak, I speak with personal clarity and thought. My natural inclination is to think that other’s do that too.  That they think of consequences, the well-being of the person/s their responsible to, and important minutia. But they rarely do.  They’re in the moment. They’re into themselves.

So that’s another ‘popular line’ that isn’t my karma. My karma is NOT to treat people the way I would want to be treated. Why? Because most people are nothing like me. They play by a different set of rules (NorthEast ones) and I need to play by ‘their’ rules, not mine (SouthWest). It’s only fair.

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The 8th House in Virgo: House of Privacy, Intuition, and Intimacy

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Some peeps are just going to have to go through the Plutonian fire wheel of tests before they are let in.

They can scream paranoia and too private all they want;  but 8th house, Scorpio, Pluto, Virgo stellium people — don’t buy what they’re selling.  Their intuition is not as sharp (don’t easily believe the lies people often tell themselves) nor is their integrity.

A certain level of privacy is important to me. Intimacy is something that is earned over time, and given when comfort is there. Many people do not understand or care about the fragility of others.  They often do not hold the secrets of others very well.  A well-adjusted 8th house person  does, especially a Virgo stellium in the 8th house.  The gravity of some people’s casual and random intrusion is often not understood by them. I get that they believe they’re being harmless, but they’re not. If a person has a depth of character and sensitivity, their spirit can be easily screwed with.

Anyone who respects someone else would not be so readily and bossily nosy when they have no right, connection, invitation, or privilege to do so.

Pestering ought to be met with rudeness if nosy people try to move past boundaries! In the past, I would have felt it wrong to be rude but some people do not take a simple “no, I’m not comfortable sharing that” with graciousness. Today, I recognize the other person is being rude so being rude back is fine if that’s what is needed to get the point across.

The other annoying thing is that people who are nosy and have an expectation for you to share your secret bits, often are quite secretive themselves and have little intention of reciprocating the one way telephone conversation.  Go figure!  The world is backwards!

Goading anyone into telling you their secrets is not the way to open them up; it’s classless.

The best way to deal with that classlessness is to give them some of their medicine and pester them about sharing something personal about themselves.  Watch how fast they try to squirm out of it or lack disclosing anything of importance to them (similar to of what has been asked of you).

I see people. I see you.  That’s what I do for a living. See. If I don’t openly call you on your crap, there’s a good chance I’m just being Venusian.

p.s. Celebrities, and people who earn a large chunk of their living from public affairs, are by the nature of what they do, often exempt from a certain level of prying by the general public and commentators.  It’s not really the same thing when reporters, etc. are trying to get the story of their lives out of them or is it??

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I can imagine that after I die, people w …

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I can imagine that after I die, people will say they knew me and will largely have false thoughts about who or what I was. It’d be less arrogant to say: She was complex, barely scratched the surface on that one. Neptune in the 10th, Stellium in the 8th.

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I’m a hard-core communicator and I have …

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I’m a hard-core communicator and I have an upside down ‘bowl’ aspect pattern. If I didn’t love ‘sharing awesome’, I would write everything down in a personal notebook for no one else to see. Sometimes I wish I wasn’t so interested in sharing (aka teaching) — it doesn’t seem to support my personal goals.

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This has long since bothered me: Unknown …

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This has long since bothered me: Unknown people will frequently engage me, learn from me, and then buy from someone else. I’m starting to ask why but the sting is still there. With Formalhaut Conjunct North Node in the 2nd, my destiny (my present) is to act with integrity when making my own money. However, my self-esteem gets a brutal kicking when I’m looked over. I feel used and stuck.

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