The 7th House: Committed & withdrawn relationships, Contracts & obligations, Projection & ownership, Giving & getting, Attraction & Retraction, Conflict & co-operation, Domination & submission, Self & Other Development
In this blog, I find it best to mostly write about my personal and professional experiences when sharing astrological insights. It flows better and faster. Hope that’s welcome.
I have my Sun Conjunct Mars in Leo in the 7th house. I might as well be a supercharged fire sign because this aspect is like being an honorary Aries and Martian and I’m already a Leo.
I can see why they say Sun Conjunct Mars can ooze sex appeal (David Bowie!). However, I’m not as self-oriented as this aspect might suggest because it’s in the natural house of Libra, which is just the other side of the coin of Aries. I’m also a good sport, if the other is too. However, if the other goads at my loss — I’ll want to smite them! So play nice.
Also, while I’m an extremely sexual / sensual being, I have a stellium in the 8th in Virgo (with Venus being in there) so I’m not sex-crazed in the classic sense. My Virgo gives Leo a dose of humility, chastity, and honor. Again, this is why I’d have to read your chart to see how (for example) Sun Conjuct Mars affects you personally.
I’m not a typical Leo in that historically other is just as important as self, if not more-so. But it also means that I have tended to be happiest taking a leadership or creative role in any partnership, while continuously encouraging and requesting equality, input, and assertivness (getting needs met) from the other (and that includes clients!).
Whenever you have planets in the 7th, relationships become a heightened theme for you and partnering, being in a committed relationship, and getting married is almost a given. What’s in your 7th, decides your partnering fate.
With Mars in the 7th, I attract a lot of different things to me. Given it’s also the house of projection, it’s hard to sort out what is mine and what is theirs. And who initiated an action, thought or, feeling first. Thankfully, my Virgo stellium keeps me in check and honest as well as holding a mirror to the other person when they’d like to suggest I’m the only one who has an edge.
However Mars in the 7th or Aries on the 7th house cusp can cause the native to be aggressive, assertive, active, competitive, sexual, passionate, and initiating action. But it can also cause the same in return, especially when the native asserts themselves in anything Aries related. Even non 7th house Mars people, who are normally more docile, can get their back up with a 7th house Mars partner. In fact, they can incite a similar Martian response. Remember that Mars in the 7th is in the house of Libra and Libra likes to mirror – hence the projection.
We all have Mars and Aries in our charts and with a 7th house Mars, that energy gets directed into 7th house themes.
It’s kind of a damned if you do and damned if you don’t scenario in that a Mars in the 7th is limited in how they want to naturally express themselves before the boomerang effect gets ignited.
I personally strive for conscious self-awareness. I opt for co-operative sports and games with partners. I do my best not to play against my partners. And when I play on my own, I do my best to have horse blinders on (after scoping out what’s there) and just do my own thing. But I can also be too cocky sometimes and the occasional statements of “I won” (in a non-partner thing, that is) is something I really have to keep in check.
I also like strong characters who will stand up for themselves and if they didn’t before I met them, they will after knowing me for awhile. And that’s one gift a Mars in the 7th can give to others, if they allow that to happen.
Having said all this, people (readers and witnesses to my work, even) can become competitive — even clients sometimes . I think this is due to my Sun inspiring their confidence. If she can do it, I can too. Or I want to do what she’s doing. She appears more powerful and greater than I. I want to be greater. Unfortunately with Mars hanging out with the Sun, I can have people get competitive with me and that’s not something I enjoy at all. I support the star in every person.
But let me tell you something… Sun Conjunct Mars is no wall-flower. We work crazy-hard — too hard. Often, nothing is handed to us on a platter for us (Aries, self-directed!). You get to see the end result but the hours, effort, and sacrifice, you probably don’t. Our success doesn’t come cheap. So when we have someone ride our coat-tails and get the rewards, we generally don’t like it.
And also know that I’m constantly in awe at the brilliance of others. In other words, I’m not thinking that I’m more powerful or greater than anyone else.
Leo is in domicile with the Sun for a reason. Positive Leos appreciate, enjoy others marketing, belief in themselves, and their starshine. While I wouldn’t probably date a Leo man, I do love watching them dance like a peacock. It gives me great joy to see them feel so good about themselves. I rarely perceive it as arrogance, an oft thoght of word from non-Leos when thinking about Leos.
So if you find yourself getting your back up, feeling competitive, etc., know it’s probably my Mars in the 7th and try to be gentle. It’s an opportunity to connect with your own competitive, aggressive, fearless, and sexual nature. Also, just let me know. Seriously, it’s okay. Be real. Be authentic. I F-up, a lot. I just realized I did that tonight when I mentioned I had done something one year before someone else. It wasn’t to discount their success though I can very well see it could be taken that way (as competitive). It was my Virgo being precise and my desire to say: Hey, I relate.
But in saying that, I will absolutely tell you that I AM competitive but generally with myself. As in, I like to break my own records and do my own thing. And the worst thing that a Sun Conjunct Mars native can do is watch what anyone else is doing. Always, always either a) applaud the greatness of others or b) don’t look! ;)
Sun Conjunct Mars has been my biggest problem in life until astrology came along to let me know what the problem was! It was really hard to get my head around. And many Mars in 7th can’t believe or accept that they might be inciting aggressive and competitive behaviour in others. We’d rather think it is the other. But that’s the case with projection and the 7th house. And before any non-Mars person gets smug (smile) we ALL project. We ALL have a 7th house. And we ALL, at some point or another have thought: He or She did it. It’s them. They’re the unreasonable quack-job.
Hate to be the bearer of bad news: You’re a quack job too. ;P
Now back to Mars in the 7th. It’s like having Mars Conjunct Venus so the opportunities to get jiggy with someone else (very early in life too) is quite immense. And with the Sun in there, you’re shining your warm and light on your partners. They get a happy pill if they can keep you happy and not meet your assertiveness with a counter-attack.
Well this got a whole lot longer than I expected!! I have a lot to say about this aspect and placement because it hasn’t been easy on me and I have been determined to make it a completely positive experience for myself and hopefully, you too. So I’ll be doing a series on the 7th house, over time.
Busy day today. Much love, happiness, and success to all! ★ ♥ ★
