Opposites. Men (Aries/Mars/Sex) opposite Women (Libra/Venus/Love) My thought about men and women, in romantic relationships… men don’t stay with or love a woman, for the sex. Yes, they tend to want, or have sex on the mind more than women (in general, no absolutes here) but here’s the kicker – you’ll get a woman to stay with you / love you for the sex — GREAT sex. A man’s Mars! Saturn (Capricorn/Libra), Pluto (Scorpio). What keeps a man, to a woman? Your love. Your acceptance, compassion, understanding, joy, positivity, optimism – your Venus (Libra/Taurus), Jupiter (Sag / Pisces), and Neptune (Pisces). In an ideal relationship, for many, sex AND support are crucial to happiness. But men and women are different in that what holds them to you, what makes them truly fall in love with you — it is counter-intuitive to what you think does. Through many studies, it’s been stated that biologically women seek support (emotional, financial, and whatever) and I have found that to be true (even with the feminists). But again, that is not what makes her fall in love with you or stay with you. That, my friend is Oxytocin – the bonding hormone, and that my friend gets released in spades when we get the big O and lots of super duper cuddles. So don’t skimp out my het male friends – give your girl the squeeze. And the women, go easy on your man’s ego. In fact, shower him with praise and joy!! Happy Venus day / weekend. Get your love on. <3
Note: I’m heterosexual, and this article is written with a personal blog perspective. While my writing could be applied to all forms of relating, this is what I know best and I tend to enjoy writing from experience.
Ask yourself these two questions:
- Do you want the relationship you’re currently in, or to be in one?
- Do you want to love the person you’re with, or be in love?
What are you (Aries) doing about it, to create and loving and vibrant relationship (Libra) for you and your person of interest?
The first question I’ve asked — asks for a commitment (Libra), and dedication (Taurus). The second question asks for vulnerability (Aries), and passion (Scorpio). Yes, a healthy Aries is vulnerable because they’re strong.
If you’ve noticed, I haven’t asked about having sex (Mars).
Frankly, I strongly believe (and astrology indicates this) if you don’t have #1 and #2 (Venus) first, then having #3 (Mars) is often a sure disaster. And while some people believe it takes a long time to love someone, I don’t agree. But I do think it can take a long time to see if someone is compatible, but that’s the logic side of Libra — not love (Taurus).
To be personal, I had sex fairly quickly (within two weeks) with my ex husband but we then became joined at the hip and we were together for 10 years. But the most important thing I discovered was that #1 — he wanted to be in a relationship AND #2 — he loved me rather quickly (love at first sight), so it made sense to have #3.
These days it seems like a lot of guys want to skip #1 and #2 for themselves, and go straight to #3 (Mars) BUT expect YOU to do #1 and #2 (Venus) all on your own. Waaaaa?? LOL Yeah buddy, it doesn’t work that way. Good try though. LOL
They don’t want to commit because it’s like a dating buffet out here on the internet and they’re abusing the nonsensical friends with benefits (fwb) arrangement aka FREE SEX. And they don’t want to be vulnerable, unless or in place of you being vulnerable because… eh, I haven’t figured that one out yet. Anyone know??
But the full package is Venus and Mars. That’s Venus combined with Mars. Venus without Mars, and Mars without Venus is not a full romantic relationship — it’s sex or it’s friendship but it’s not both.
“Careful consideration of your options and goals will lead to wiser choices at the times of activity, and a gradual transformation from self-preoccupation to becoming more aware of the rights and feelings of others will be a great step for you to make.” Source: Astromatrix
Not even the proverbial fwb person is really a friend. Why? Because at it’s core, this arrangement lacks respect. And your true friend will respect you, and vice versa. So if you’re respecting (2nd house – Taurus) yourself, your friend, and vice versa — you’re not having an fwb situation. Fwb is a misnomer. Yes, Venus is related to friendship and Mars is related to sex BUT if the man REALLY likes you (the logic part of Libra) — he’ll want more than just sex with you. He’ll want you all to himself (Aries). And he’ll focus on Love (Taurus), and commitment(Libra). Fwb lacks love. Fwb is missing something. Fwb is seriously flawed, and like an aberration. Fwb is more of an Aquarius, 11th house, Uranian thing. An acquaintance. Fwb is a Mars-Uranus arrangement, that leaves the female (Venus) out of the picture. Her Venusian wants, and desires are left out of the equation. Uranian energy is discordant, and the fwb arrangement is inconjunct to Venus (Taurus) even though it appeals to a side of Venus (Libra trines Aquarius).
Anyway, fwb is like a whole other article or BOOK. Is there a book out there yet on this subject? Could be… lol
I think of astrology as a language.
Astrology is a direct and divine language of the Gods — how the cosmos speak to humans and vice versa.
I’m an translator (interpreter), and teacher of this symbolic language.
I’m more arts, than science focused.
While astrology is a language, the charts erected contain many volumes of books with astrological chapters, paragraphs, sentences, and words.
It can take years, or months to read a whole chart — minutes, and seconds to read part of it.
Natal astrology describes the native, and the potential opportunities and challenges they shall face, face, and have faced.
The natal and progressed chart is your operating and repair manual. Every machine enjoys maximum success with one.
The solar return (and other predictive charts) and transits, are your windows of opportunity. They also provide challenges to help you grow and explore the magic of your life, and living.
Synastry (and composite) charts describe the chemistry between two or more people, and the reason for the relationship, as well as the potential opportunities and challenges they shall face, face, and have faced.
Just like the natal and progressed charts — synastry and composite charts, are operating and repair manuals focused on your relationships. Along with a counseling astrologer, skilled in reading charts and therapeutic dialogue, you may enjoy a much faster and clearer repair of your relationship.
— Abella Arthur
The other day, my talk therapist asked me: What is love? Frankly, it made me pause. Then I turned to astrology — what I often do when I want to decode life.
Love is Venus, Juno, Taurus, and Libra.
No matter the type of love: romantic, platonic, love for one’s child, or job — the following traits are the foundations or necessary ingredients for love:
Love and loving, and being loved is sweet; hard; affectionate; fair; poetic; growth oriented; committed; wanting to be around the other; painful; causes security, stability, and balance; fruitful; tenacious; interdependent; what we value; what we want to own; beautiful; peaceful; relaxed; open; thoughtful; steady; reliable; loyal; comfortable; natural, resourceful; supportive; selfless; giving; sharing; and a projection.
Note: The above list is NOT exhaustive… :)
We often demonstrate our love to loved ones by making things such as poetry or cards (beautiful, poetic, giving, resourceful, natural, sweet, affectionate, thoughtful, etc.), giving gifts of chocolates such as during Valentine’s day (sweet, affectionate, giving), marrying / partnering with / giving birth (growth oriented, committed, painful, fruitful, loyal, stability, etc), or simply providing a powerful hug (sweet, peaceful, relaxed, open, comfortable, natural, supportive).
One of our goals in love is often to have and offer security, and stability — to provide and receive a home for the mental and material, connecting those two parts to the heart.
Our love for another is a reflection of our love for ourselves, which is why the old saying goes: You can’t love someone else, until you love yourself.
We offer tough love (Juno) when our loved one’s have gone astray. Tough love is not only painful for the receiver, but also the giver.
Love is more often then not reciprocal, though it is given of one’s own free will, and can include much sacrifice and selfless service.
When you truly love, you love for free. You will love without receiving anything in return — perhaps not indefinitely, but definately initially.
Having said that, love is about being fair. If love is not reciprocated (Libra, Juno), physical (Taurus, Venus) demonstrations of it will eventually dry up.
What does love mean to you?
Do you have love in your life?
Who do you love?
Do you love yourself?
Are you a lover?
Here are non-astrological viewpoints on what love is — neat how there are many similarities:
Love (Taurus) is the opposite of lust (Scorpio, Eros).
Scorpio, ruled by Pluto, connected to Taurus (Venus) is another form of love. And another blog post, one that would also include the myth of Psyche and Eros. :D
Also Pisces, and Neptune (higher octave of Venus) also have a connection to what is love…
It’s true that travel and education are so important for and to me, yet the best I seem to do so far is ride my bike & read books. Every time I travel, I think of something new. And when I learn, other ideas spring forward.
Travel and education are stimulating adventures for me. And while I somewhat kid about the bike and books, I haven’t done the kind of traveling (overseas) and education (getting a degree) that I’d like to do.
I think that’s partly because the way I want to do these things do not fit into the everyday life that I lead. And having Libra on the 9th means that I like to travel with someone else and learn one-on-one. So it can be seen that long distance travel and higher education is a challenge for me.
But I work around these things…
And if you are ever wondering about my new fangled ideas, Jupiter-Uranus in the 9th are likely the culprits! ;-) Now it’s up to me to continue fine-tuning my Neptune-Saturn aspect and present innovations in a way that is easy to accept and understand while not being too normal, as to not be seen as an innovation.
If compromises are fair and logically sound (Libra) in a relationship, they’ll be loved down the road and no one will have felt they gave anything up.
(Note: Saturn Libra is currently at 25° Rx and is opposite Sun Aries 29° and will soon be (by next week) in trine with Venus Gemini, currently at 12°. I figured I ought to check this since I’ve written so much about Venus and Saturn lately and what do you know — the planets are talking again!! :-D)
Want to feel content? Look to the sign that Uranus is in.
My Uranus is in Libra. I need harmony, partnership, beauty, sweetness, delightful conversation, love, art, music, and balance to feel content.
If I have this, I 1) sleep like a baby, and 2) I smile a lot.
I generally feel very comfortable, yet intellectually stimulated, around Libra Sun’s because they don’t upset me. In fact Libra’s have a calming effect upon me.
This is also why having a Mercury-Venus contact with someone, in syanstry, is VERY important to me whereas it might not be as important for you to have. I need that because I have strong Mercury-Venus in my chart and I want, like, and need to speak my truth but, in harmony. However, with Mars in the 7th and on the 3rd, it’s a challenge with most people. So a Venus person, who is Mercurial (preferably Virgo), cancels that trouble out!
But of course, it’s not really as simple as that. There are so many moving parts in a chart. However, this is how I begin to personalize your natal chart when I read it. There’s no blog post or report that can currently do this.
So back on track — this is one reason why it’s important to have a harmonious connection between your Sun and someone else’s Uranus and vice versa. If it’s disharmonious, it causes discontent. In that vein, this also means that if you have a disharmonious Sun-Uranus contact natally, you are likely to feel discontent.
And note that (Sun) Leo is Opposite to (Uranus) Aquarius naturally, so there’s already a planetary disharmony (that can be adjusted).
Another Uranus-sign delineation?
Uranus Scorpio may need sex, secret investigations, power (em), control (self), and tarot reading (for examples) to find contentment.
What’s your Uranus in and what do you need to feel content?
Want to get jiggy?! :D
Life is really simple [and beautiful], but we insist on making it complicated.
Was Confucius a Libra?
More Confucius quotes
I found this description of Uranus in the 9th, bang-on!
My Uranus is in Libra. I often prefer teaching one-on-one but I can work with groups too. Maybe that’s because I have Jupiter Libra, in the 9th as well.
Also, Libra is related to languages and I believe astrology, tarot, and numerology are just that — languages!
Uranus here does not readily accept ideas and rebels against being told what to believe. They may resist a number of higher education establishments, unless the teachers are open minded, progressive and enlightened. The individual may also be interested in studying Uranus related subjects – Science, sociology, computers, astrology and astronomy. Those with Uranus in the 9th house often encounter exciting teachers, and similarly this person is considered a highly stimulating and electric educator.
More than any other placement this individual is interested in the truth of the system. – read more at The Astrology Place
If you seek a dynamic teacher who doesn’t teach out of someone else’s book, I’m your Gal.
Currently connecting you with your innate knowledge of astrology, tarot, numerology, and relationship skills.
My Uranus contacts are Sun Septile Uranus, Mercury Semi-sextile Uranus, Venus Conjunct Uranus (Venus rules my 9th house), Saturn Sesquiquadrate Uranus (yup! haha), Uranus Opposition Chiron, and Uranus Square AC. My Jupiter contacts are Venus Semi-sextile Jupiter, Jupiter Semi-sextile Neptune, Jupiter Trine North Node, and Jupiter Quintile Ascendant.
On the flip-side, I have Mars (Aries) on the third house cusp and Chiron resides within. And Mars is Trine Chiron. So I will push for your voice to be heard.
Read more about my thoughts on the 9th house.
By the way, I prefer to be called YOUR Wisdom Guide or you could refer to me, to others, as MY Wisdom Guide.
In the end, it’s YOUR innate wisdom that will ensure you learn and retain the material well.
The Connection Between Semi-Sextile Signs
Here’s an example:
Scorpio wants to find the hidden truth. “The truth hurts.”
Virgo wants to find the absolute core truth. – “There’s your truth, my truth, and then THE truth”.
Libra wants to find the middle path of truth – “Three sides to every story: Yours, mine, and the truth.”
My Sun in Leo really doesn’t like the humility of Virgo. A maladjusted Virgo sort of acts like a doormat along with a sign that says, use me. I mean, having some humility is good but not over-humility. And there’s a time and place for everything. I had to let go of the Leo ego before being able to balance it out (Libra makes a showing!). So now it’s time for Leo to take its rightful place — displaying some pride, and acting on its sense of entitlement. In a good way, of course. Go Leo! ;P