Lessons in the trench.
Tell people what you need or want, without judgement, criticism, or sarcasm.
Please put the dish there.
“I hate when you put the dish there, — you don’t think that it’s getting in the way of MY space.. But why would you, you’re the only one that matters.”
All that talk not only will probably get the other person down or want to kick you out of their life, but you won’t feel good either, having made up stories about someone else’s motivations. And being unfriendly and hostile, hurts you too.
So next time you tell someone what you want or need, try cutting the fat.
* If that doesn’t work, or you need to share your displeasure, WIN it…
When x happens, I feel x, and I need x.
When the dish is put here, I feel frustrated and ignored. I need you to put the dish here.
Babble be gone.