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Synastry: The Rationale Behind Why Great Aspects Combine With Horrible Ones

October 4, 2012 / By Abella Arthur / In Astrology, Planets, Methodologies, Aspects, Interesting Bits, Synastry, Signatures / Leave Comment

We hook up with people to work out our own difficult natal placements. Find theirs or yours in your synastry and composite and you’ll know what they are — and why you’ve combined with another.

Why is it that you can then have a HUGE amount of ‘great’ and ‘beautiful’ placements in your charts but the relationship won’t survive or will be incredibly challenging? The answer is in orgasm and reproduction.

The universe knows we’re not going to engage in something very painful unless there’s a reward for it. So you’ll get those intensely wonderful aspects to counter the incredibly hurtful one’s you’ll experience and NEED to experience to develop as a human being on this earth. There’s no free ride, this is EARTH — hard, cold, dirty.

But the universe has provided the SUN, 5th house — to give you PLAY time to make up for the hard truths and lessons that Saturn delivers.

For example, the Gods have us ‘making babies’ even when those we are making them with are often not suitable.

I wonder which of the planets devised that wicked plan to populate the Earth. :-) Come out, come out, wherever you are… Pluto or Saturn?! Maybe Pluto AND Saturn. lol

Aspect Types: Oppositions in Synastry & Natal Astrology Chart

May 9, 2012 / By Abella Arthur / In Astrology, Methodologies, Abella, Teaching, Aspects, Natal, Synastry / Leave Comment

I was grazing the incoming search terms and “oppositions in synastry” came up but unfortunately they didn’t find the blog post they came to read (hint: use the SEARCH feature to the right, at the time of writing this!).

So I’ll take a moment to share more thoughts on that signature.

To simplify, synastry isn’t much different than natal astrology except for the difference that instead of the chart showing your ‘relationship with yourself’, the synastry chart shows a relationship with an external entity (another person or persons).

The conjunction, inconjunction, and opposition all share something in common — a blind-spot of some sort.

An opposition is really just another side of a conjunction and an inconjunction is a maladjusted or poorly constructed opposition.

Oppositions in a natal chart indicate extreme vacillations (see my posts on oppositions) or at least that’s how it can appear to people on the outside.

To you, on the inside, you may find the annoying back and forth, yo-yo dance (that you can’t quite figure out the steps to) irritating and you may even perceive that it’s outside forces causing your missteps.

In synastry, an opposition has a similar effect. In fact, it’s kind of crazy making because it causes a one foot in, one foot out (hot and cold effect) with the object of your affection or dejection.

An opposition is imbalanced, like the inconjunction, but unlike the quincunx, the instability of an opposition can last much longer and there seems to be a much harder ability to or less interest to harmonize differences ( a real blind-spot!).

Where do you have oppositions in your chart?

That’s where you are out-of-focus and have great difficulty seeing the whole picture.

So in synastry, an opposition basically means that the celestial objects and angles that form that aspect basically don’t see eye-to-eye and the people involved struggle in a tug-o-war to get the other person to see their point of view. It’s very Aries (Mars)-Libra (Venus).

Some say this is hot. And if the right celestial objects are involved, it IS hot (in the exciting way) but how often and long do you want to burn?! If Mars is control, the relationship or “planetary themes” will burn out faster then you can say FLY or is that FIGHT. Of course, if you’ve got Saturn in the mix, you’re going to be forced to fry until you figure out what karmic mess you’ve both involved yourself in.

But hey, why not beat the red planet with a softer planet? Lets bring Venus in.

One of the best ways to harmonize this aspect is for ALL people involved in the synastry to: Compromise, and extend the olive branch and be interested in discovering what’s on the other side.

BUT if only one person does that, the other (the partner) will surely be dissatisfied. Because when it comes to Libra, there must be a mirror effect occurring for the love and fairness of Venus to shine through.

Now before we get too smitten with Venus, in the dance of the opposition, Mars is still quite necessary as he keeps it real and reminds that individual needs are still important. And Venus can be too soft and then you may end up with apathy and nothingness for fear of the somethingness (intended spelling mistake) you may not want.

So we can not ever really have Mars (activity) without Venus (receptivity), and vice versa, unless we want to eventually land into a funk. Afterall, Earth is situated between the two.

That means that Venus doesn’t get her way, nor does Mars BUT they can both get their needs met and that’s what you’ll want to achieve in an opposition, within synastry.

Alright, I REALLY need to get out of this Astrogasm blog for awhile and back into VirgoVault. It’s just that it seems to take so much more ‘time’ to write an article over there because after I write my article, I read up on what others say, give them a shout-out, find some groovy picture, organize the article, etc. etc. It takes a long time to write one of those beasts. LOL But I see I keep writing long winded articles on here and this blog was intended for short quips. Mon dieu! ;-)

What’s Worst in Synastry? An Opposition or a Square?

April 21, 2012 / By Abella Arthur / In Astrology, Methodologies, Synastry, Special Topics / 5 Comments

What’s worst in synastry? An opposition or a square?

I think an opposition is worst because there’s such a see-saw and tug-o-war effect, the couple can be opposed to each other, and even if they manage to synch up and blend — it could go extremely in one way or the other. Whereas a square is something more manageable. Harmony can be brought to the table if both parties are willing to make some compromise and fall-back a bit. As well, the square tends to have a dynamic quality about it, a fortitude that I don’t see as clearly with the opposition.

What do you think and why?

Quotes:Relationship Compromise

April 19, 2012 / By Abella Arthur / In Astrology, World, Methodologies, Abella, Life Skills, Synastry / Leave Comment

If compromises are fair and logically sound (Libra) in a relationship, they’ll be loved down the road and no one will have felt they gave anything up.

(Note: Saturn Libra is currently at 25° Rx and is opposite Sun Aries 29° and will soon be (by next week) in trine with Venus Gemini, currently at 12°. I figured I ought to check this since I’ve written so much about Venus and Saturn lately and what do you know — the planets are talking again!! :-D)

Saturn In Synastry

April 17, 2012 / By Abella Arthur / In Astrology, Methodologies, Interesting Bits, Synastry / Leave Comment

In synastry, the Saturn person is there to keep and encourage the other person to: be responsible, mature, discipline, work hard, past tests, conserve, have ambition, be faithful, carry out one’s duty, endure hardships, overcome obstacles, have integrity, react somberly and humbly, budget, respect age and wisdom, be patient, persist, heal karma, restrict and suppress wants and desires in favor of meeting needs instead, and submit to experience.

If there’s a square, opposition, or other difficult aspect type — it’s the couples karma to find workable solutions. Many times, heavy Saturn (in synastry) will be seen in one or both of the natal charts. The natives karma is not to ignore relationship difficulties or pass it over for a new one (they imagine would be better) for they will encounter the pattern and will of Saturn again until they pass the test. In other words, difficult Saturn will show up in synastry again.

The Saturn partner sheds a light on what you need to mature. So instead of feeling parented by the Saturn partner, you can enact self-discipline so you self-restrict rather than feeling that your freedom is being taken away from you. Saturn is reality and this planet asks you to man and woman-up!

Venus-Saturn (in synastry) tests our love, maturity, faithfulness, integrity, etc..

Mars-Saturn (in synastry) encourages the couple to overcome obstacles, budget energy, persist in sex, assertiveness, and activity, etc.

Sun-Saturn (in synastry) keeps the ego in check, creates humility, restricts wants and desires, etc…

And so forth…

Which of your planets, points, or celestial objects does Saturn touch in synastry with another person (romantic, friend, or otherwise) and vice versa?

The Sun & Moon and the 7th House in Synastry (Plus Me & David Bowie Celebrity Synastry Reading!)

April 16, 2012 / By Abella Arthur / In Astrology, Methodologies, Abella, Consultations & Readings, Interesting Bits, Readings, Astrology, Celebrity, Synastry / 14 Comments

(It’s another LONG one. I think it’s VirgoVault time again! LOL)

Recently I wrote about the Ascendant and the 7th house, in synastry. I want to briefly mention the other two important players — the Sun and the Moon.

The Sun represents self, life force, what you create, how you lead yourself, your ego, your energy, your personality, the day time, the true you! — the 5th house.

The Moon represents the tribe, emotions, feelings, needs, instincts, memories, how you get comfortable, what makes you uncomfortable, sleep, food — the 4th house.

Wherever another person’s Sun deposits itself, it illuminates those house themes for you. So if you have Taurus on the 7th house cusp and you connect with a Taurus, they’ll be illuminating your house of partners and shining a light on your partnership interests. But they’ll also be illuminating your shadow and projected side so you may find that uncomfortable and distasteful to deal with.

But if you have the North Node in your 7th, meeting with your reflection may be exactly what you need to progress in life. (Again, this article will not give you everything I can give you in a private consultation. I am scraping the surface with these posts).

Wherever another person’s Moon deposits itself, it provides memories of ‘home baked cookies’ and feelings. So if you have Taurus on the 7th house cusp and you connect with someone with a Taurus Moon, they’ll remind you of what makes you comfortable and content in a partnership.

I have Cancer on the DC. I tend to be overly nurturing, family oriented, and will take care of my partner when they’re sick and not feeling well. But guess what?! I want that too. I want to be babied now and then. I love my partner being domestic and cooking, especially when I’ve been so fierce and active with my Leo Sun-Mars conjunction and busy at work with my Capricorn rising. I need to rest now and then and the Cancer Moon (and Leo Moon too – see further down the post) does an especially good job of doing that for me. But again, because it’s the 7th house of projections I may think the Moon, deposited in my 7th house or vice versa, is too dependent and needy when in reality (if nothing else) I am too! Ha! The 7th house burn. LOL

Depending on whether you want a stimulating or restful relationship, you may be more attracted to the Sun or the Moon of your DC (7th house cusp). Alternatively or equally, it may be the Sun or Moon that’s attracted to your 7th house cusp.

David Bowie (one of my favorite performers / artists) is a Capricorn Sun, Leo Moon, and Aquarius rising with Leo on the DC with Leo Moon-Pluto conjunction and Virgo sign inside. I’m a Leo Sun, Virgo Moon, Capricorn rising with Cancer on the DC and Leo inside (Sun-Mars). David’s Moon-Pluto Conjunction falls in my 7th house!! :-) And my Sun & Moon-Pluto conjunction falls in his 7th house (he’s got a HUGE 7th house). I’m definitely attracted to his style when I’ve watched his interviews and videos as well as connected on a visceral level to the lyrics of the songs he’s wrote. Too bad I’m not a huge celebrity star or I think we’d get on famously (with a few fights because he’d probably be so parental! — Rest of the chart folks!!) LOL

I’m generally not attracted (relationship-wise) to Cancer Sun’s (never dated one!) but I AM Very attracted to Cancer Moon’s. Perhaps ‘attracted’ is not even a good word when it comes to the Moon — I think I’d use that for the Sun. With the Moon, I feel ‘at home’. I feel ‘safe’. I feel that my ‘needs’ are being met, and that person understands just what I need to feel comfortable. They can feel me out.

I looked over my synastry of serious relationships and I noticed that…

I’ve also been very attracted to Leo (see David Bowie again) and Virgo Moon’s. Leo is also in my 7th house and Virgo is almost in there too (plus I have a Virgo Moon as well). I’ve also been attracted to Libra and Scorpio Moon’s but often nothing extra-serious and or eternally bonding came of those relationships. But I’ve never been in a serious relationship with a Cancer or a Leo Sun even!

I also found it exceedingly difficult to get over Leo and Cancer Moon exes. It was like a piece of me went with them and melancholy memories persist but have greatly faded, thankfully. Whereas the Libra, and Virgo Moon’s became good long term friends (one of them 20+ years). But I couldn’t remain friends with the Cancer and Leo Moons. I think I understand why now!! Oh, how I Love astrology.

Questions to you, dear readers…

What’s your Sun, Moon, Ascendant?
What’s your 7th house cusp and what’s in your 7th house? Does the house have another sign in it?
Which Sun, Moon, and Ascendant sign attracts you the most?

As can be seen, the business of synastry (or finding your perfect match) is a complicated matter. Because even if you knew who your perfect fit was, you’d a) have to be exposed to that person, b) be their perfect fit, and c) know what their birth chart was — needle in a haystack! LOL

But it’s not the end of the world… we can cut ourselves some slack…

You may not find a powerful ‘conjunction’ to your DC like Moon Conjunct DC but Moon Trine or Sextile DC would work as well. So for myself, a Virgo or Taurus Moon, deposited into my 7th house, is a good fit as well. And if you’re into the Sun in the 7th energy (synastry-wise), you’ve got Sun Sextile or Trine DC to work with too!

And do remember that this is a part, and not the whole chart. The whole chart MUST be read for accuracy and clarity. And in the case of synastry, also each individual’s natal chart — so at least three charts are being read (and that doesn’t even include the progressed charts, which are very important as time goes on in the relationship.).

So…

1. What’s your Sun, Moon, Ascendant?

2. What’s your 7th house cusp and what’s in your 7th house? Does the house have another sign in it?

3. Which Sun, Moon, and Ascendant sign attracts you the most? Who have you dated? Who couldn’t you get over very easily? Who couldn’t you wait to cut loose?

Chart Reading Tricks: The Ascendant & Synastry – At First Sight

April 15, 2012 / By Abella Arthur / In Astrology, Methodologies, Interesting Bits, Synastry, Angles, Ascendant / 6 Comments

The Ascendant is what we see first in another.

Lets say you have Leo on the 7th house cusp and someone who interests you has Leo rising. This could tell you that Leo rising is someone whom you might want to form a commitment with and you may find them as being ‘marriage material’.

However, the one glitch with this sad story is that Leo rising has Aquarius on the 7th house and that means they tend to be on the detached side in committed relationships. They generally need and want a lot of freedom in marriage, even if they’d say otherwise at the start. In fact, because it’s the house of projections they’ll think whoever they’ve hooked up with wants a lot of freedom and that could be very well true but it’s also true of the native.

Okay, so what am I getting at?!

Unless you have an Aquarius rising, it can be a difficult fit if you wanted to get married to the Leo rising because Leo on the DC is in many ways freedom busting, warm, and would likes attachment.

So what I’m saying here… is that the ascendant is what we see on the outside, looking in. And wherever someone’s ascendant falls in our houses, that’s where we see the person at first sight and how we think they’ll fit into our lives.

But we all know there’s more to it and it doesn’t matter what we see because the rising sign often doesn’t see, accept, or fully articulate their risingness, so what you thought you were going to get — may not pan out.

If it doesn’t, the moral of the story is to remind your ‘rising’ sign partner to do their bit. Encourage them to shine naturally and don’t get peeved when they don’t or didn’t see what you saw in them at first sight. It’s just not their fault what you saw or what impact you’d thought they’d have in your life.

Confused?

Comment. :-)

Quote: Astrologer Jeffrey Wolf Green, On Orbs

April 10, 2012 / By Abella Arthur / In Astrology, Systems, Interesting Bits, Natal, Synastry, Special Topics, Astrologers / Leave Comment

Q: Do you use the same orbs for aspects with asteroids as you do with planets?
Jeffrey: This is something I am still observing and correlating, and have only been dealing with the asteroids myself for maybe four or five years so have not really come to firm conclusions as the the orbs. To this point I am seeing that maybe 5 to 6 degrees relative to major aspects seems to apply… Jeffrey Wolf Greene
[February 19, 2002]

The orbs simply correlate to how long a person has been working on any given issue, i.e. ten degree relative to a square would mean that this would be the first lifetime for a person to work on whatever the two planets/archetypes/dynamics are. Conversely, for example, those same two planets could be in a 6 degree orb relative to the square, and this then suggests, in evolutionary terms, that the person has already been working on those evolutionary issues prior to the current life for at least several lifetimes. As such it is not ‘new’ to the person, there would be previous experience, and thus the orientation, and behavior, would be different than the person who had the ten degree orb. — Jeffrey Wolf Greene
[March 22, 2002]

Makes sense! It corroborates (in an odd and reversed way) my theory that the longer you’re with someone (synastry) the more a wide orb is felt. Orbs are ‘time based’ (maybe even, ‘knowledge based’), I believe. Time and knowledge closes the gap.

So when reading the charts of long-term couples, use (and notice) a wide orb or you’ll miss out on important themes the couple has, is, and will work through.

Think of it like this: When they first met, they didn’t know certain things about each other. As time goes on, they find stuff out. That’s the wide orb.

The same goes for you, and your natal chart. The more self-developed and connected you are to your stuff, the deeper you can go with a wider orb and the complete suite of harmonics.

Uranus: What Do You Need To Feel Content

April 9, 2012 / By Abella Arthur / In Astrology, Methodologies, Abella, Philosophy, Natal, Synastry / 15 Comments

Want to feel content? Look to the sign that Uranus is in.

My Uranus is in Libra. I need harmony, partnership, beauty, sweetness, delightful conversation, love, art, music, and balance to feel content.

If I have this, I 1) sleep like a baby, and 2) I smile a lot.

I generally feel very comfortable, yet intellectually stimulated, around Libra Sun’s because they don’t upset me. In fact Libra’s have a calming effect upon me.

This is also why having a Mercury-Venus contact with someone, in syanstry, is VERY important to me whereas it might not be as important for you to have. I need that because I have strong Mercury-Venus in my chart and I want, like, and need to speak my truth but, in harmony. However, with Mars in the 7th and on the 3rd, it’s a challenge with most people. So a Venus person, who is Mercurial (preferably Virgo), cancels that trouble out!

But of course, it’s not really as simple as that. There are so many moving parts in a chart. However, this is how I begin to personalize your natal chart when I read it. There’s no blog post or report that can currently do this.

So back on track — this is one reason why it’s important to have a harmonious connection between your Sun and someone else’s Uranus and vice versa. If it’s disharmonious, it causes discontent. In that vein, this also means that if you have a disharmonious Sun-Uranus contact natally, you are likely to feel discontent.

And note that (Sun) Leo is Opposite to (Uranus) Aquarius naturally, so there’s already a planetary disharmony (that can be adjusted).

Another Uranus-sign delineation?

Uranus Scorpio may need sex, secret investigations, power (em), control (self), and tarot reading (for examples) to find contentment.

What’s your Uranus in and what do you need to feel content?

Natal &/or Synastry / Composite: Venus Opposition North Node, Venus in the 4th, 8th, and/or 12th

March 25, 2012 / By Abella Arthur / In Astrology, Music, Aspects, Natal, Synastry / Leave Comment

Fallen – Blank & Jones (Delerium & Rani)

Do you remember me
I’m just a shadow now
This is where I used to be
Right here beside you
Sometimes I call your name
High on a summer breeze
What I would give,
To feel the sunlight on my face
What I would give,
To be lost in your embrace

Chorus:
I’ve fallen from a distant star
Came back, compelled because I love
I’m caught between two different worlds
I long for one more night on earth

Do you believe in dreams
That’s how I found you
But I can’t be revealed
Till you take a leap of faith
What I would give,
To feel the sunlight on my face
What I would give,
To be lost in your embrace

Chorus:
I’ve fallen from a distant star
Came back, compelled because I love
I’m caught between two different worlds
I long for one more night on earth)

Song Meaning in synastry or natal: Venus Opposition North Node

Also… Venus in the 4th, 8th, and/or 12th (the natural water houses).

Astrology: How To Get Rid of Bad Natal Aspects

March 11, 2012 / By Abella Arthur / In Astrology, Methodologies, Natal, Synastry / 2 Comments

How to get rid of bad natal aspects? Synastry is one answer.

Sometimes we meet another and we find the same negative aspect in synastry. This generally means we haven’t worked out that issue yet and this person is here, as our soulmate, to hammer it out.

But lets say you’re tired of going down the ‘soul-mate’ road and you just want to have a joy ride… then not having your nasty bits duplicated in synastry, will help you feel more joy.

Awesome synastry can cancel out your natal problems. In this case, you’ll want to know what you don’t want duplicated and set about not attracting your kind of person.

Do keep in mind that you’ll want to learn from the relationship, should it ever end, so that you can be healed by it rather than using it as a crutch!

Sun Square Uranus, in Synastry

March 1, 2012 / By Abella Arthur / In Astrology, Methodologies, Synastry / Leave Comment

In synastry, Sun Square Uranus is something to steer clear away from… unless both parties are aware and mature.

(Note: A lot of people keep finding this post on Google. If you have a question about this aspect, please ask because I hardly wrote anything about it. Cheers!)